My Berlin Kitchen

Hellooo, everybody! Still recognize everything? Yes, things look a little different around here this morning. I really (really) needed a change and although I'm still fiddling with some things, it feels so good to have cleaned house a bit. I'm doing all the design fixes myself, but have about as much knowledge of this stuff as a fruit fly, so I'm feeling both triumphant and totally hungover this morning. But hooray for change! And hooray for Typepad for having such brilliant customer service, without which I would be completely and utterly lost.

About a year ago, just after I'd delivered the final, final, final fixes to my book's manuscript, I asked if you guys had any questions about the process of writing a book. I wanted to help give some insight into the process, which had been so daunting even for me, a publishing "insider". You guys obliged me by asking wonderful questions and I obliged you by…oh, right. I never actually got around to answering them. I was in the end spurt of pregnancy and then Hugo was born and then my life exploded and the book tour happened and did I mention that I'm just answering emails from last September now? Right. GAH.

Anyway! Better late than never is a good motto to remember in these moments (or at least that's what I tell myself), so today, let's talk about book writing. Okay? Okay! (And if you have more questions, please leave them in the comments! I swear it won't take me a year to answer them this time.)

Jennifer asked:

I'm an American in Europe, and I'm curious as to whether or not your book will have both US and EU measurements, and if so, did you have to painstakingly test recipes using both measurement methods in order to make sure they were just right? What was the publication negotiation like on that topic?

The US edition of the book was published with only US measurements. Things are changing, especially in the cookbook world, but because I was writing a food memoir and not a straight cookbook, my publisher didn't insist on having both US and metric measurements. In fact, they didn't care at all. (For many cookbook publishers, having metric measurements – up until a few years ago – was considered a drawback. Too alienating for US readers, too messy for designers to have to include both on each page.) Because so many of the recipes I included in the book were originally in metric measurements (for example, the Poppyseed Whirligig Buns or my uncle's Sicilian Pizza), I had to painstakingly test them as I converted them to US measurements in my Berlin kitchen. All of those European-originating recipes were tested multiple times by me, some up to ten times! Hoo boy. Recipe-testing is not for the faint of heart. It's fussy, repetitive stuff and, for me at least, it took the joy right out of cooking. Luckily that phase didn't last long.

Ileana asked:

I'm curious about the discipline needed to write in long form. A deadline helps, but how else did you make yourself get it done?

By backing myself up against a wall and holding a gun to my head? Only sort of kidding! Ha! Haha! I don't think I exaggerate things when I say that finding discipline to write may be the very hardest part of any writer's job. Read any book on writing or any memoir of a writer's life and you are guaranteed to find many, many sentences devoted to the fact that the writer is convinced, at any given point, that they are a fraud and a waste of space and spirit and utterly incapable of writing, so there's no point in even sitting down and trying because it's never going to happen anyway and you might as well give up and become a garbage man or a middle manager or go hike the Camino de Santiago or something. At least then you'd be useful. That having been said, a set routine really helps: forcing yourself to sit down at your desk at the same time every day (and then ending at the same time every day) is a must. Also, I found that listening to music that you can write to helps as well – I'd put my headphones on and put my head down and stuff would just flow. Finally, re-reading Anne Lamott's Bird by Bird whenever I felt stuck (I know passages of it by heart now) was balsam for the battered soul. Writing is painful stuff – realizing that you're not alone in what feels like the ultimate sisyphean endeavor is hugely, hugely helpful. And it's motivating, too. Once you're done feeling sorry for yourself, you find yourself thinking, if all those people could do it, why can't I?

Thomas asked:

At some point I would love to hear what the three hardest things were to say goodbye to when editing the book, the things that didn't make the cut. And did you choose those yourself or were you 'forced' to?

I really regret not answering this question sooner, because now, a year later? I can barely remember what I was forced to get rid of. But the very fact that I can't remember anymore speaks volumes, I think. Clearly those things really did need to go and whether or not it was painful at the time ends up being irrelevant in the long run. That's a good lesson to learn. But one chapter that didn't make the cut (by both my choice and my editor's) that really stands out for me was the one about my mother's longtime boyfriend Florian. That chapter was actually originally an essay that I wrote after his death in 2004 in an attempt to come to terms with his very sudden, totally devastating death. Years later, when I was working on the book proposal, I realized that a lot of what had gone into that essay made sense in the context of what I was putting together. It was not only about him as a person and what he meant to me, but also about the food that he loved and what he taught me about love and feeding people and family. Ultimately, once the final manuscript was finished, we realized that the elegiac feel of the essay didn't really make sense in the wider arc of the book. Since I couldn't find a way to make it fit, we reluctantly cut it out.

Emily asked:

I'd love to know more about how it was that you put together a brief/pitch to get your publishers on board way back at the beginning (I know you touched on this a little back then, and also that you were maybe lucky enough to have a bit of an insider's knowledge, but a bit more of a story would be great!).

It's funny, so much has happened since I started working on the book proposal in July 2009, but I remember those days, hunched over my laptop, looking out over the treetops in Forest Hills, like they were yesterday. My agent, who at the time was not yet officially my agent, but just my good friend Brettne, and I had been getting together for lunch a lot that summer, talking about the big changes in my life and what my next steps should be. Brettne knew how homesick I was and when I told her that I was thinking seriously about moving back to Berlin, she was the one who actually suggested the idea for My Berlin Kitchen – a memoir about growing up in Berlin, my peripatetic childhood, the struggle to understand where I belong, the heartbreak, too, and then the return to where I started, all accompanied by my favorite recipes from Berlin and my uncle's table and Joanie's kitchen, among many other places. (Brettne says the idea occurred to her in the middle of the night while she was nursing her baby and after she told me that, I promptly signed with her, because where else on earth would I ever find dedication like that?). I loved the book idea instantly and started work on the proposal that very evening.

For the proposal, I wrote a general overview of the proposed book, outlined the chapters I wanted to write, gave some details on the recipes (heavy on mouthwatering details), wrote about the blog and all of you lovely people and what press I'd garnered over the years, and put together a sample chapter about my weekly trips over the border to East Germany when I was a child to visit Joanie's father-in-law, which ended up turning into Chapter 3 in the finished book. I gave the proposal to Brettne and a few of my closest friends for feedback and worked on perfecting it over the rest of the summer. In the meantime, Brettne and I compiled lists of editors that we wanted to submit the proposal to. In early October, just before the Frankfurt Book Fair, Brettne was ready to go. The day that she sent out the proposal to our first round of editors was one of the scariest of my life – woah, just remembering it now, I can actually feel the adrenaline rush up into my throat and down into my belly. I was at the office then, of course, and trying to focus on the work in front of me was so hard. Luckily, one of my close friends at the office knew what was going on (I hadn't told anyone at work that I'd been working on a book proposal – or that I was planning on moving to Berlin!) and let me come into her office every now and then to freak out. But all the worrying and sweaty palms had a swift end not two full days later when Viking preempted the book. !!! I still haven't gotten over the thrill of that moment and I hope I never will.

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40 responses to “Q & A: On Writing My Berlin Kitchen”

  1. Sylee Avatar

    Love your new look. (& crossing my fingers you’ll publish that essay on Florian elsewhere for us to read!)

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  2. Caitlin Clarke Avatar
    Caitlin Clarke

    Love the new look! Very fresh.

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  3. Julia of Randomly Yours, Julia Avatar

    Funny, I decided it was a good time for a blog redesign today, too! I started a new job today and I’m doing #blogjune over on my professional blog (not the one linked below) so it seemed like a good time.
    Feedback? It’s great that an image of your book is prominently featured but not gigantic. In general I like the layout, social media buttons, and the new header, but I think the text might be a bit small, particularly on the right hand sidebar. But that might just be me. I’m on a 13″ Mac.
    Thank you for answering reader questions – very interesting!

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  4. Deborah Avatar

    Amazing, thank you for sharing and for (I’m not sure if those is the right word) normalising the process. I love the new redesign too.

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  5. Sally Avatar
    Sally

    I like the new look. I’d also like to read the essay about Florian.

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  6. Julia Avatar

    I love the new look, Luisa! Also, I have a question about the measurements in your book. I’m from Spain and my copy of your book has US measurements instead of EU, even though I bought it in the UK. Does it mean that there are two versions of the book and I got the US one (aka, the wrong one for me?). I don’t really mind conversion, but I just wanted to know as I might try to find the EU one.
    Also, I’m on my last day of the Whole30. Your site has been encouraging and inspirational during this process. You’re awesome 😀

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  7. Jennifer Avatar
    Jennifer

    Great post, thank you! Where can we read the essay about Florian?
    I am so enjoying your book, cooking each recipe as I read–fun and so yummy!

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  8. Deb Avatar
    Deb

    I would also like to read the essay about Florian….
    I found it interesting that, in your blog, you used to refer to Ben, but in the book, his name was Sam. Was this your publisher’s decision, or yours? Sorry if that’s too intrusive of a question.

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  9. Katrin Avatar
    Katrin

    Love the new look, but am missing “Berlin on a Platter”! That blog led my husband and me to some wonderful places…..is it coming back?
    Thank you for just being you!

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  10. Zoomie Avatar

    Please give us the Florian story.

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  11. Luisa Avatar

    Thanks for your feedback! I actually didn’t change the text size at all. Did you find it too small before? Would love to know!

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  12. Luisa Avatar

    Yay, go you! (And thanks!) There is no UK edition of the book, so the edition you bought in England is still the US edition, with US measurements…

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  13. Luisa Avatar

    It was actually my decision. I changed both his and his family’s names. I’m not sure I could put in words why, exactly, but it felt better to do so – and more respectful of his privacy, certainly.

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  14. Luisa Avatar

    Aw, thank you! I’m so glad you like BoaP – I’m still blogging there now and then, in fact, I just added a few discoveries a couple weeks ago. But with everything else going on, I admit that it’s hard to find the time. I’m definitely not shutting it down!

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  15. Luisa Avatar

    I’d be glad to! I’m so glad to hear there’s interest in hearing more.

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  16. Katrin Avatar
    Katrin

    OK – I found it…just had to do some searching and it’s still there! Thank you!

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  17. Bianca @ Confessions of a Chocoholic Avatar

    Luisa, I really loved your book and find these Q and A’s very helpful (and inspiring)! Thanks for sharing.

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  18. Luisa Avatar

    I’ll have a link to it back on my site soon – that’s one of the things I’m fiddling with! 🙂

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  19. Ileana Avatar

    Luisa, thanks so much for answering my question! Really enjoyed this post. I’ll have to check out Bird by Bird. Oh, and last night we made the roasted chicken legs with lemon and oregano that you posted a few weeks ago. Just heated up leftovers for lunch. Absolutely delicious, so thank you for that, too!

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  20. orcagna Avatar
    orcagna

    Yes, I have to chime in here – PLEASE publish the Florian section!

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  21. Charlotte Avatar

    I’d love to read the Florian essay as well please. And, probably not coincidently, I reread most of My Berlin Kitchen over the weekend and loved it even more than the first time I read it. And seriously, even though I know the story of you and Max (and Hugo) still the end of Paris part just kills me every time I read it – my husband was a bit worried about the waterworks as I was reading it yesterday! (fabulous writing)

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  22. Gen Avatar
    Gen

    Hello! I like the redesign, but I miss your list of “favourite food blogs.” I found that I share your taste and used to use it all the time as a blog digest of sorts. Is it coming back?
    Thanks!

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  23. Luisa Avatar

    Yes! I’m still working on formatting that stuff and finding a good place for it on the site. Hope to have it all sorted in the next week (fruit-fly-CSS-skills willing!)

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  24. Amy Avatar

    Ah, I have to say, I miss the “old” wednesday chef… but I think that’s just because the old layout had some sort of comforting, familiar feel to it for me. I can completely understand feeling the urge to clean house with your blog, though.
    And thanks for the Q&A responses– and I second everyone by saying that I’d love at least some snippets of the Florian story. This post makes me want to revisit My Berlin Kitchen. It was such a nice book.

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  25. dervla Avatar

    Awwww, I remember that time like it was yesterday. You running into my office, our excited exclamations over how quickly the process was going and what amazing response you were getting. We got to participate in book auctions through work all the time, but nothing was as exciting as your own book getting acquired!!! I miss you at the office desperately though 😦

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  26. dervla Avatar

    PS great job on the redesign, impressed that you did it yourself. Wanna come do mine?

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  27. katie Avatar
    katie

    Very interesting, thank you. I noticed some of your cookbooks in your photo. Could you list some of your favorite cookbooks that you have in your library? I have My Berlin Kitchen and it is one of my favorite cookbooks of the many that I own.

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  28. katie Avatar
    katie

    I just noticed you changed your masthead photo — I made that salad from one of your posts — the one with hearts of palm and blood oranges? One of my favorite salads of all time!

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  29. Luisa Avatar

    Yes, I know that feeling – whenever the blogs I read change their design, I also feel sort of sad and nostalgic, too. Hopefully you’ll like this new iteration soon enough! So glad you liked MBK!

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  30. Luisa Avatar

    I miss you, too. xoxoxoooxooxoxoxoxo

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  31. Luisa Avatar

    That is so deeply wonderful to hear! Would love to talk cookbooks – should I do a post about it?

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  32. Luisa Avatar

    Yes!! So delicious.

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  33. Nana Avatar
    Nana

    I like the new look but miss your Parisian plate on the masthead photo…

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  34. Katie Avatar
    Katie

    Yes, please post about it — Thank you!

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  35. Suzy Avatar

    Love it. Love the “You might also like” things at the bottom and that all your social media buttons are all nice and neat. Where did Berlin on a Platter link go?

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  36. Siri Avatar

    Love the new elegant look of the blog. I have always been a silent reader of your w stories and immensely enjoyed the book as well. Now this Q & A – so honest and upfront to share the process of writing & more. Thanks much for the links as well 🙂
    Siri

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  37. Frances Avatar

    This could not come at a better time – just trying to screw up my courage to write writerly things… knowing how hard you worked is comforting somehow!
    Also, Bird by Bird is in my handbag RIGHT NOW. We should be friends 🙂

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  38. Sasha Avatar

    Change is good! I do really like how things are looking around here, but I must admit that I liked your previous banner picture before. There was just something comforting about the colours, about the butter.

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  39. Sarah G. Avatar
    Sarah G.

    I’m reading your book now, and when Florian was mentioned briefly, I asked myself several questions about him and the structure/editing of books while I wondered why he hadn’t been described before (I’m not quite done with your book yet, so I wasn’t sure until I read this blog post, if perhaps you discussed him later). Forgive me if this is a repeat request, I haven’t read the other comments… Would you consider sharing the Florian essay with us? I’m so invested in your story, and I feel like he would help me understand your mother a bit more as I read. Is that creepy? Btw, I’m loving your story and your writing style.

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