Oma and Bella

Have you heard about a documentary called Oma & Bella? It's about two best friends, Regina and Bella, who live together in an apartment in Berlin and cook all the livelong day. Kreplach and borscht, cream cheese cookies and chicken soup. They shop at the same places I do. They don patterned cotton house dresses when they putter in the kitchen. The filmmaker is Regina's granddaughter. (Oma means grandmother in German).

The granddaughter films Regina and Bella as they cook together, as they tell her about their childhood, their German tinged with melodious Yiddish accents. Regina and Bella are Holocaust survivors. They were young girls during the war, when they went into the camps. Regina came from Poland, Bella from Lithuania. Their families were murdered. They were the only survivors.

I watched the film the other night perched at my desk, the apartment dark around me as Oma and Bella's kitchen glowed warmly from my computer screen. I watched and listened to the banal, everyday details of their life interspersed with the incomprehensible. It broke my heart.

After it was over, I sat near the radiator in the living room warming my feet and looking out into the night, little lights in the city twinkling on the horizon. I tried to imagine, as I have so often before, what it must have been like once upon a time in this city, this country, this whole region. For people to have been not just turned out of jobs or stripped of licenses, refused service or denied entrance somewhere, anywhere, but to have been hunted down like animals, eliminated, exterminated like pests. To have been turned out of their homes, stripped of their things and their identities, their names forcibly changed. Murdered in the street, in a gas chamber, on a train car, in a camp bed. Anywere. Everywhere.

And then I tried to imagine the gaping horror of being the only one of a family to survive such a thing. To have witnessed how, one by one, every person was picked off but you. To have the burden, the privilege – yes – but also the burden, of growing old without them. Suddenly I thought of Hugo sleeping in his little warm bedroom in the back of the apartment, all wrapped up and safe and quiet. It felt almost obscene to have those two thoughts in my head at once.

Oma&Bella cookbook

Due to high demand for Oma and Bella's recipes after the film was first released, Alexa Karolinski, the filmmaker, published a gorgeous little cookbook as a companion to the film. I'm so glad she did. When I watched Regina roll up blintzes or Bella nudge the browning onions in a pan, my stomach growled. In one scene, Bella made borscht and I thought, that's what I want for lunch tomorrow.

The next day, I went out to the bookstore and bought the book. It's a slim little thing, clothbound, with sweet illustrations and 36 meticulously written recipes in English and in German. Alexa got Oma and Bella to share their recipes with her and then spent years transforming the vague instructions they gave her into recipes that work, with ingredients that are available both here and in the US. Having had a little experience into the difficulty of this kind of work with my own book, I tip my hat to Alexa – she did a wonderful job.

I especially loved that reading the recipes made me think of my own grandmother, who's been gone for almost 14 years now. She would have loved this book, I think. The movie, too. My grandmother loved kreplach and borscht and she also thought that food was the best way to show how much you cared for someone. She would have adored the idea of a granddaughter filming her doting grandmother as she cooked in the kitchen.

Red borscht

Somewhere towards the end of the movie, we see a Sabbath dinner with Oma and Bella's children and grandchildren. The table is long, there are so many guests. Candles are lit, vodka is thrown back, there is happiness in the air. You, as the viewer, long to be there at that table, too. You wish you could sit next to Bella and ask her questions about her glamorous post-war life when she danced in Berlin's discos and owned a nice clothing shop, or what her secrets are to creating such a happy family. But a few scenes later, when she and Oma are at an outdoor café, sitting across from each other, you realize just how fleeting their happiness can ever be. You see how close to the surface the trauma lingers for them both. It is always there, their grief, inescapable.

To rent or purchase the film online, click here.

To purchase the cookbook online or to find a list of bookstores that stock it in Berlin, New York, Toronto, Vancouver or San Francisco, click here.

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70 responses to “Oma & Bella”

  1. Lena Avatar

    I also watched the movie just recently as it aired on ARTE.
    It’s a really great film with special people. I’m glad they made a cookbook with their recipes and I’m eager to take a look at it somewhere!

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  2. Traci Avatar
    Traci

    Wow. I must watch this, but what I love is that even without watching I can still feel the impact from your words. Thank you .

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  3. Sasa Avatar

    Such a beautiful post Luisa.

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  4. Rach Avatar

    Do you know if the movie is available for purchase? Your post, and the movie trailer, reminded me so much of my late grandparents and I’d love to be able to give a copy to my aunt, also a Holocaust survivor, as a gift.

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  5. Wendy Avatar
    Wendy

    I just checked on Amazon, and the film can be purchased, or rented to stream via Amazon, too. Cookbook looks wonderful, albeit expensive — with shipping, about $US36. But for those kreplach, na, vielleicht ist das doch nicht zu teuer.

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  6. Frances Marcel Avatar
    Frances Marcel

    Luisa – Can I get the cookbook in the US ? Thanks

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  7. Stephanie Avatar

    Heart warming and heart wrenching at the same time. Thank you for sharing this lovely piece, Luisa. I was absolutely delighted by reading your book a few weeks ago (I got it out from my local library in Auckland, New Zealand) and it will be the perfect gift for a friend who spent a year living in Berlin on a high school exchange programme. I think I may have to buy my own copy too as your blog has kept me company over the past years and provided a lot of light and joy, and I don’t think I can do without the recipes which illustrate your life! Very best wishes xx

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  8. Lora Avatar

    Wow. I am going to recommend this film to the organizer of our local film festival. Beautiful!

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  9. Steve U Avatar
    Steve U

    What a wonderful, wonderful article. Thanks for bringing their story to a wider audience.

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  10. Shaheen [The Purple Foodie] Avatar

    Thank you for introducing me to this film. I just watched the trailer – so heartwarming. Can’t wait to watch the movie this weekend.

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  11. Amy Avatar

    hanks for showing us this, Luisa. I loved your own thoughts that went along with the documentary and book, and I hope to watch it myself soon. The heights and depths that humanity can reach is so strange, isn’t it? You can capture all that emotion within a single meal.

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  12. Cindra Avatar
    Cindra

    I know for sure I want to see this after your post. Loved your book, love your blog.

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  13. fiona Avatar
    fiona

    Thank you for such a beautiful and moving post.
    For those wondering how to watch the film: if you’re in a location with Amazon Instant Video, it’s available there. It is only $3.99 to rent, and it’s also available for purchase:
    http://www.amazon.com/Oma-And-Bella/dp/B009VB80LU

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  14. Dawn Avatar

    Thanks for bringing this beautiful movie to my attention. I absolutely loved it. It shows you almost everything you need to know about life.

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  15. gemma Avatar
    gemma

    Your posts usually make me giggle when I think of the way you might say things. But this one made me blub. big tears. beautifully written my friend. As always x

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  16. Hannah Avatar
    Hannah

    Thanks for this Luisa. Can’t wait to check out the film, which I hadn’t heard of before.

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  17. Shelly Avatar
    Shelly

    I’ve been reading a book “Stasiland” by Anna Funder. She paints a graphic picture, with her words, of life behind the Berlin Wall. She sets the story in 1996 as she researches, interviews and tries to really grok how it was
    And then there is your book and blog posts. I am beginning to get a picture of Berlin. Now I will add this movie recommendation…thank you.

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  18. Sara Avatar
    Sara

    Thanks for sharing. My husband’s grandparents fled to South Africa during the holocaust and were the only surviving members of their extended family. It was especially hard for them as they considered themselves Germans more than Jews. His Grandfather had a mental breakdown and was never the same. Such a traumatic event. As part of the reparations by husband has a German passport. I’ll have to check out the movie.

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  19. Melanie Avatar
    Melanie

    I think it’s great that you bring Oma & Bella’s story to our attention and that Alexa Karolinski brings it to Germany’s attention. Before long, there won’t be Holocaust survivors left to tell their story so its sooooo very important that it’s recorded. It’s interesting they chose to settle in Germany when so many Jews who survived left. My family came to the US before the Holocaust but when I think of it if my grandparents didn’t get their papers, it could easily have happened to my family and I wouldn’t be here. The richness of their stories told, their cooking and the Yiddish spoken is a reminder that the goodness of life can go on even after such horror.

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  20. Jennifer Avatar

    Thank you for sharing this. I’d love to check out this film. I’m a fan of documentaries and indie type movies so it sounds I would enjoy it, not to mention my family (mom’s side) is German and I had an Oma too. She was a fabulous cook and a passion for her, and did so out of love. I look forward to the movie.

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  21. Shiri Avatar
    Shiri

    Thank you for this. I grew up in a survivor family and have spent a lot of time in Berlin for work. My love of that city and my grandmother’s experience as a German Jew create a constant disharmony for me. The way you describe their lives as the only ones left – my grandmother is very ill and somehow when I think of her losses now, of how it will be once she is gone, too, the sadness of it just rips right through me.
    Well, that comment got a little out of hand, now didn’t it?

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  22. PD Avatar
    PD

    Touching, riveting. I want to see the whole documentary. It was kind of jarring and weird though to hear about eating “only Jewish food” while the camera focused on a pig leg. Err…
    Prewar Berlin has occupied much of my reading and thinking in the last few years. It is through your work, largely, that I now crave the opportunity to visit. Someday.

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  23. Luisa Avatar

    It’s a calves’ foot, actually. I thought it was a pig’s at first, too… 🙂 And I’m honored that my writing would give you the urge to visit Berlin.

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  24. Luisa Avatar

    Not out of hand at all. Constant disharmony sounds like a pretty accurate way of putting things. Treasure your grandmother.

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  25. Luisa Avatar

    They wanted to emigrate to Israel, but weren’t able to at the time. Yes, so many “there but for the grace of God go I” stories out of that time…

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  26. Luisa Avatar

    I often think how particularly difficult (not the right word, but I can’t think of one stronger right now) it must have been for German Jews, who considered themselves far more German than Jewish, to have been persecuted by their own people. Oh, it’s just so heartbreaking.

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  29. Luisa Avatar

    Yes! I’ll update the post with info – it’s linked in the post but I’ll make it clearer.

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  30. Zu Avatar
    Zu

    Is Your book available in German? Will it ever be? I can find it on german amazon, but only in English. 🙂

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  31. Sasha Avatar

    Thank you for sharing this. Both the film and the story both seem beautiful and heartbreaking, triumphant and tragic and I cannot wait to immerse myself in both. I plan to watch the documentary tonight. Coming from Canada, at times I too am overwhelmed by the history and the blood and the secrets that my little neighbourhood, Maxvorstadt / Schwabing, in Munich has been witness to and participant in. It all feels so far away to me and yet there are some people, like Oma and Bella, who still carry and feel the weight of that history everyday. It is another reminder how many worlds there are in a single city.
    You have reminded me of an article I just read the other day about two brothers who are shoemakers in Australia: http://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/two-of-us-20121015-27lql.html
    And the Jewish cooking reminds me of ‘Feed me Bubbe’: http://www.feedmebubbe.com/
    As wonderful of an outlet the internet is for telling stories of young lives and cooks and lives in transition, I think that it is so important to preserve and share these older stories and recipes.

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  32. Honeybee Avatar
    Honeybee

    That’s a beautiful post.
    I feel that it has become even more difficult for me to read or hear about such horros as the Holocaust ever since I’m a mother. To imagine that pain, that suffering – it’s unbearable. It makes me realise how incredibly lucky we are to live in a safe place with everything we need. And also how vunerable having children made me.
    I would love to see the movie.

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  33. Sissy Avatar
    Sissy

    My brother’s in laws are German Jews who escaped Germany as children and ended up in the US. He became a lawyer and is in his 80’s and still works to this day. His daughter thinks he can’t quit working because he still is influenced by the Nazi perception that you must be useful to society. He (brother’s father in law) told me that he still carries his US passport with him everywhere he goes so he can prove who he is as a US citizen. These holocaust survivors who were the youngest are now in their 80’s and will not be with us that much longer. We should do everything we can to record their stories and so nice to hear Omar and Bella’s granddaughter has so beautifully told their story.

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  34. Magda Avatar

    This is so touching. Thank you so much for sharing this Luisa. I will search for the film and watch it. Thank you!

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  35. Luisa Avatar

    It’s being published in November in German by Limes Verlag!

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  36. Ariana {And Here We Are...} Avatar

    What a wonderful project– thank you so much for sharing it!

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  37. Amanda Avatar

    Thank you so much for sharing. I’m very excited to watch this with my co-blogger. Maybe that will be us some day!

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  38. Sylee Avatar

    I’ve been meaning to get this title from you. Reading your post makes me even more eager to see it.

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  39. Katie Avatar

    Luisa, thank you so much for sharing this. I don’t have any personal connection to this part of history, but as someone who’s recently lost her grandmother, I think that projects like this are so important. I really wish I’d spent more time cooking with my grandmother.
    In any case, I just bought the cookbook and hope to see the film soon!

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  40. Charlotte Avatar
    Charlotte

    Thanks for introducing me to this story – I need to find both the movie and the cookbook. I think it resonates with any granddaughter who has cooked with a grandmother. I so agree with the other comments about how hard it is to reconcile that kind of suffering (holocaust) and the existence of our innocent children.

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  41. katy Avatar

    This is such a beautiful post; I had remembered seeing a trailer for the movie in the fall and then, somehow, it fell of my radar. Thank you for bringing it back to my attention and for introducing me to this lovely little cookbook. I’ve been wanting a German/English cookbook for a while now and this seems like a wonderful place to start.

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  42. Hayley Avatar
    Hayley

    I live in Los Angeles and recently went to the Museum of Tolerance. On that day, there were talks given by Holocaust survivors. The woman that we had the privilege of hearing was named Elizabeth Mann. She was the most amazing woman. I was touched and humbled and heartbroken to hear her story. Reading this post, I am reminded. I can hear her voice again. Thank you, Luisa, for that reminder.

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  43. Gabrielle Avatar

    The impulse to share the history is very great and I, a German Jew who came to NY at the age of 1, have been following that impulse for decades as have so many others. What moves me most is that members of the next generations –like Alexa – are carrying on the story. In my own life, I am gratified that my daughter, Sonya, wants to share the food traditions of German Jews, as do I, because we both believe it is one of the most important ways to tell about a culture. You, Luisa, are of course doing that, in telling about your marvelous multinational family. Sonya and I, in fact, will be talking about German-Jewish Cuisine and sharing tastes of our recipes next week at the New School in NYC. (http://germanjewishcuisine.com/2013/02/28/a-talk-and-food-tasting-in-nyc/). If you are in New York we would love to see you there.

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  44. stacey snacks Avatar

    Luisa,
    Going to watch it tonight on amazon, thanks for letting us know about it.
    Can’t wait to get the book too.
    Stacey Snacks

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  45. Jamie K Avatar
    Jamie K

    Thank you for this. I would often wonder as a child how it could be that my father, my grandmother, my uncle (and likely myself and other family members too) would have been killed for nothing, no reason. Actually, I still wonder about it even now. It has haunted me all my life but I always feel it would be an incredible injustice to forget it.
    I’ll definitely be watching it this weekend. I must get the book too – my grandmother would adore it.

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  46. PD Avatar
    PD

    Ah! Thanks for the clarification! It really did puzzle me!
    I missed your Santa Cruz Ca reading by a hair—I’ll regret that for a loooong time. I’d recently discovered your blog so I’d pored over it for a few weeks and then…the book came out!
    Thanks for all your work. Really. It makes life a heck of a lot tastier, inspired and plain…nice!

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  47. Nuts about food Avatar

    Reading this gave me the goosebumps. I must see this movie. Loving food as I do. Because my mother is from the Berlin area, which she fled with her mother for West Germany after the war, after her father was shot down and killed. Because her Catholic Polish uncle was killed in a concentration camp. Because my father is an American Jew of Eastern European origin. Because my Oma just recently passed and a few days ago my mother brought me her cookbooks from the Thirties and it made me long to be with her and taste those meals from my childhood.

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  48. jenny Avatar

    Luisa – Thank you so much for writing about this. I’m going to watch it with my 11-year-old who just finished the Art Spiegelman Maus graphic novel series about his father, a Holocaust survivor. I was worried about whether she was ready for it (who ever is, though?) but I find after reading it, she just wants to hear more stories. And I think ultimately the most noble thing we can do as parents is to make sure those stories are heard. THANK YOU!

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