Hugo and the rice cake

Cultural differences, folks! So colorful, so funny, so endlessly interesting. Unless you're the mother of a hungry baby and you find your head spinning with every different answer you get about what you should feed your child.

Take, for example, the first solid food a baby should eat.


The Italians say to make a vegetable broth out of carrots, potatoes, tomatoes and onions. Let it cook for 50 minutes, then strain out the vegetables and use the broth to mix together a meal out of rice cereal and a spoonful of olive oil.

Meanwhile, the Germans say that a baby's first food should be a carrot boiled in water and puréed until smooth. The idea that onions or olive oil would be part of the first meal is totally unheard of. Couldn't onions irritate the stomach? Isn't olive oil far too strong of a taste? Meanwhile, the Italians say that carrots are constipating, so why on earth would you start a baby out with that? And put more Parmesan cheese on that poor child's plate!

(Implied outrage on either behalf mine, but, you know, based on reality.)

Over the ocean in America, conventional wisdom has it that the first food should be a soothing bowl of iron-fortified rice cereal. I gave that to Hugo a few times until I tried it myself and then decided life was too short to allow my kid to get used to wallpaper paste.

It's confusing and a little frustrating to hear so many conflicting opinions, especially at a time when you're feeling insecure about how to proceed. I've logged plenty of hours online doing searches for "7 month old olive oil okay?" or "8 month old yogurt safe? and feeling overwhelmed by the amount of answers to be found online. But on the other hand, once you start to realize that precisely because there's so little consensus there's not much you can do wrong, it's pretty freeing.

After all, while the Germans, for example, keep strongly flavored and spicy food away from small children, something tells me that Indians, say, don't keep the chiles and spices out of their babies' first meals. (Or do they? Tell me, readers!! I would love to know more.)

In fact, all the conflicting opinions on baby's first foods reminded me a lot of being pregnant and how each of my cultures had different banned foods that they were convinced if ingested would result in tragedy. When, really, a little nuance would have been more appropriate. (This blog post resonated so, so much with me – and helped me decide how to feed myself during that time.)

So tell me, readers, what did your culture (or your mother's or mother-in-law's) dictate you first feed your child? And how have you dealt with conflicting opinions about what your child should be fed?

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60 responses to “Cooking for Hugo: Culture Clash”

  1. Sylee Avatar

    Honestly, more than anything, BLW encouraged me not to be afraid of food but just try things, as you’re doing, and see what sticks. My mom may not have put chilis in my dal, but mustard seeds, turmeric, garlic and onions featured prominently. Yum!

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  2. Linkevica Avatar
    Linkevica

    My kid is 2 years old now but I remember this struggling, too. But pretty soon I understood that every baby is different, every mom is different, and I just did what felt right to me. I started with vegetables – pumpkin puree, because that’s what I had in my freezer (late summer brought great pumpkins that year, so I roasted them, made puree and put it in freezer). Baby loved it. Later I tried to make him purees I would love to eat myself. Pretty soon I realized that if I make his vegetable purees by sauteing some onions in oil first, it changes the taste dramatically (for good). I started incorporating a bit of garlic, ginger, cumin, garam masala… whatever tasted good to me. we eat meat rarely so I didn’t give it to him for a while but I often added some red lentils to his food.
    My godmother gave a book to me, about feeding a child. German, by the way. And it stated that you should always add a little oil to your babies food, also meat in the very beginning etc.
    I learned to listen only to my inner feeling and my child. If I didn’t like the way his food tasted, he didn’t eat that, too. He looked healthy, had good appetite, so I didn’t worry much.

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  3. Silvia Avatar
    Silvia

    Hi, we spent the first year of our little guys life in NY and there our pediatrician, who I regard very highly (he was australian) told us to start with yellow/orange food and to stick with one vegetable per week or at least a few days to see if there are and allergic reactions, etc. I tried to stick with that but pretty soon got bored and started adding a little parsley, basil, etc. My boy loved to eat so there was no problem. I say go with your gut and observe your child. He will surely let you know what works and what doesn’t. I personally didn’t like the plain, no flavor approach and I always let him taste any and everything we were eating just to get him accustomed to the multitude of flavors out there. He would eat olives, capers, stinky cheese etc etc. He is just now (at almost 3 1/2) becoming pickier about food, but I believe that has more to do with having some control than with taste 🙂
    The only thing I stayed away from was honey and cow’s milk until he was one year old.
    You’ll figure it out!

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  4. Eva Avatar
    Eva

    I don’t have kids but recently read that babies have a lot more taste buds. I first thought that would suggest going for slightly blander foods as not to overwhelm them, but this research suggests otherwise: http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/3594675.stm
    I think my mom (German) started with veggies but very quickly added fruit etc. And she basically let me try anything I seemed interested in. Apparently, my taste for cheese developed very early 😉

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  5. Elina Avatar
    Elina

    Here in Finland the consensus is to start with potato puree with breastmilk added if you like. Then introducing any vegetables or fruits pureed, then porridge, then meat and fish. Any other milk than breastmilk is banned before 1st birthday, as is salt and honey (honey for botulism risk), and any added sugar is frowned upon. Generally, it is thought that babies and grownups eat different food, and that canned baby food is somehow safer and more nutritionally correct. Porridge is considered the ultimate health food for babies and kids, and milk drinking is very much the norm even with meals from 1y age.
    For my first baby I made purees (leaving out the breastmilk because I saved all I managed to pump for those times that I was away). With my second baby I was more relaxed, allowing him to eat more similar food than the rest of the family. I did a combination of baby-led weaning and purees, because like you wrote earlier, my son didn’t seem to get enough food by BLW alone and was always hungry.
    Baby food tends to be very tasteless and bland – fortified instant porridge is common here but I gave it only on those instances than nothing else went down (my first was sometimes sensitive about lumpy food). I agree with you that even babies should get tasty food, and that thing is vile. I recommend everyone to follow common sense! The only guidelines we kept with our second was the no salt no honey rules.
    We’ve also lived in several countries with and without children, and all the different guidelines about everything just seem to underline the fact that it’s really not that strict, as long as they eat something they will do fine. Kids in all countries thrive, regardless of specifics in diet. But I agree, sometimes going against the common practice can require a lot of courage.

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  6. hulsta Avatar
    hulsta

    Turks feed their babies a lot of soups: yogurt soup with rice, lentil soup with vegetables, vegetable soup of whatever you can get your hands onto, etc. It kind of marvels me, since I don’t really enjoy feeding my twins something more liquid-y than a puree, it is hard work. And once they are 8 to 9 months old, meatballs are everywhere! I don’t know how they make the babies eat them. Mine still spit out any non-pureed substance put into their mouths.
    Also, from what I’ve seen, babies are fed a breakfast, usually hard boiled egg yolks, cheese (labneh, for instance), mashed walnuts, olives. Then a soup at midday, then yogurt, then fruit in pieces or pureed, then a muhallebi, rice pudding or the like. I don’t know how the Turkish mothers find time to do anything besides feeding their babies.

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  7. ines Avatar
    ines

    In Portugal, you start with simple soups, you call them 1 potato 1 carrot soup with a teaspoon olive oil. After a couple of weeks of these, you might add some other vegetables in, like leeks of lettuce; later on zucchini…. You keep adding on something green maintaining the potato+carrot base, Personally I didn’t use onions, but some people do.

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  8. Kathrin Avatar
    Kathrin

    Even though I’m a German mum living in London (meaning the background is known to you and maybe not so helpful), I stopped listening to all the floating advice rather soon and just went with what my daughter liked (apart from cows’ milk and honey, as the others have said, too).
    No spices? At 1.5 years, she grabbed our olive bowl in an Italian restaurant and had them downed within minutes. Raw garlic and oodles of chili were in there.
    No onions? She loves them.
    Give her a meal not seasoned (moderately!) with salt/pepper, she wouldn’t eat it.
    Being 3.5 years now, she loves seafood (which I hate), fish pie – and lots of Swabian dishes. But even this can change on a daily basis. Her all-time favourite risotto she wouldn’t touch anymore.
    So do whatever your gut feeling is telling you – all the different advice just show that anyway. Mankind is still around, with or without following them!

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  9. Elvira Avatar

    An italian mom, here I am 🙂
    I started with solif food whwn my little boy was almost 5 months old, and, yes, first meals were broth+rice or other gluten free cereal meal + extravirgin olive oil + 36 months old Parmigiano Reggiano (the only cheese that doesn’t contains anymore lactose traces). But onions and tomatoes come in only after several months, I started with potatoes, carrots and lattuce (or zucchini if summer time).
    I removed rice neal very soon, it was really consipated for my son (same for me 🙂
    Some theory now promotes self-weaning, feeding babies with small quantities of food parents eat, but in Italy most of pediatrician are attached to traditional iter: fish at 8 months, tomatoes and white egg after 11-12 month, etc.
    Sorry for the lenght of my comment: at the end the most important thing, I believe, is to transmit to our baby the joi and the pleasure of eating!

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  10. Jackie RD Avatar
    Jackie RD

    I’m an RD in the US and we pretty much echo what you’ve said here in our clinics: green and orange veggies first, then fruits, then meats. Don’t really recommend cereals all that much except oatmeal. The reality is that the pureed food stage really does not last that long, and as you rightly mentioned previously, is not for nutrition, but practice with textures and tongue/swallow coordination. Kiddos are on to table foods very quickly (usually within 2 mos) so I talk more about nutrient dense foods; yogurt, flaked tuna, avocado, egg (yolks only ’til 1 year), shredded cheese, tofu, etc. Have fun!

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  11. pat Avatar
    pat

    I’m American, raised my kids in Greece. Greek parents start with with what they call veg soup and seem to spend hours a day cooking for babies and young children. I breast fed for several years and started food 6-8 mos, little pieces of what we were eating. Bananas are good to start. I never spooned food into them, no cereals etc., no bottles. If you’re breast feeding, LaLeche is a tremendous source not only for support from other mothers but advice on food etc. It’s a wonderful organization all over the world.

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  12. Molly Avatar
    Molly

    Feeding babes is consuming (haha), isn’t it? I spent way too much time fretting over how much, when, what. My youngest is 20 months and eats mostly on her own now. When she was 9 months, I felt we’d be in the puréed stage forever! I have to admit, although I love the idea that babies should spiced, interesting food, I gave both mine pretty bland fare: red rice and applesauce, peas, carrots, squash… They did eat bites of our food as they got older and both seem to enjoy some spice. I wish I’d been braver!

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  13. Jillian Avatar
    Jillian

    I started my girls on the food we were eating. Cook maybe a bit longer so its softer. I bought a garlic press and passed any food through that once then fed them. Avocados were a favorite. You’re doing great. You might want to cool it on the Internet. That can make you crazy there is so much info that simply isn’t true. Just breathe and trust your motherly instincts. Love your blog!

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  14. Emily Avatar
    Emily

    I struggled with this too. If I could now do it over, I would have stopped worrying and just tried “everything”. And stayed away from the beige, beige, and more beige foods (or blah, blah, and more blah foods). I’m convinced this destroys the sense of taste. I really loved the Annabel Karmel cookbooks. Great ideas. Eventually I would just plan my meal for the day and look in the cookbooks for ideas on “Breis” using whatever ingredients I was using for my own meals. Broccoli cheese soup for my husband and me meant broccoli cheese Brei for baby. Basically, I would put my meal minus any crazy spices in my mini food processor and whirled it up. I’d be happy to mail you the 2 cookbooks I have for you to borrow (I live near Düsseldorf and don’t need them anymore).

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  15. Phoo-d Avatar

    With one kid now eating everything and another about to join the world my advice is to have the ultimate goal of a child who enjoys eating most of the things you enjoy eating. That may mean olive oil and garlic or turmeric and black cardamom or nori sheets and miso (or in our case all of the above!) It will make your life much much easier down the road if you can typically make one meal and share it together rather than always needing to prepare a “kid friendly” meal too. Start slowly introducing a food at a time to watch for allergies, but don’t limit yourself to boring food you wouldn’t want to eat too!

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  16. bea Avatar
    bea

    Hi Louisa! I have already commented on this in the other post.
    First children weaned in traditionai Italian way, exactly what you describe above.
    Third child. After i found her nibbling a core of an
    apple that I had just finished eting myself, I went to the paediatrician and started, a little apologetically, to ask if I could follow a less conventional weaning path for her (unless I put the other two back on baby food I would have had to cook three different meals every night).
    This wise, WISE woman takes off her spectacles, looks at me in the eye and says: “A lei lo posso dire. Può darle quello che vuole”.
    (“I can tell the truth to you (she has known me for years). You can give her WHATEVER YOU LIKE”)
    It ended with little Giulia, 7 months old, sitting at the table with us and being allowed to grab and put in her mouth whatever she chose.
    Except alcohol and caffeine, that is the rule!
    So let him choose, he will surprise you! And usually children love olives…….. 🙂

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  17. Melissa Avatar

    I spent a lot of time and energy making purees for my first two babies. I started with veggies and fruits, rice cereal and yogurt. But by the third baby, I just pureed whatever I had on hand from the family meal (adding water or broth), and supplemented with oatmeal, applesauce, etc. We gave him soft bites from our plates if we had something that was appropriate (meatballs, pasta). If there were spicy flavors, I would mix in some oatmeal flakes and a splash out of his bottle. Now at 5 yrs, he eats the biggest variety of foods (despite a recent boycott of green vegetables–except edamame). I just tried to pay attention to any allergic reactions he might have and avoid those foods. I don’t believe there is one right way to feed a baby–just offer a variety and adjust as necessary. And maybe get a big floor mat for under the high chair! They are messy for several years!

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  18. Jill Avatar
    Jill

    I’m American but was living in Italy when my daughter was born, so I went with the Italian system because I figured if something wasn’t working the first thing they would tell me would be to do it the Italian way. It was as you say, except the brodo was made from carrots, celery, potato and zucchini, plus a teaspoon of olive oil and a teaspoon of parmesan cheese. I think you’re exactly right; there are no wrong answers. Every culture has its preferences and obviously they’re all OK since babies all over the world thrive however they’re weaned. Just go with whatever you’re comfortable with and see how Hugo responds.

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  19. Ellen Avatar
    Ellen

    Ellen from USA here! I have a 24 month old son and a 7 month old baby girl. I made purees of organic veggies and fruits for both of them, but neither was very enthused for long. Instead they would take a bite or two and then stare longingly at the bacon or yummy sandwich I was eating. My pediatrician said they are just more table food kind of peeps. My 7 month old does enjoy fruit blends like pear blueberry or apple prune and whole milk organic yogurt. She’s also into avocado and flaked salmon at the moment. Despite common wisdom in the US that recommends starting with rice cereal, we have a progressive ped who said go with fruits, veggies and meats right away….the nutritious stuff as oppossed to empty carbs. I wish my 7 month old would get some teeth, so she can partake as she pleases soon. Love to all the mommies out there.

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  20. Sarah Avatar
    Sarah

    I’m an American living in Canada, and we went with mostly the baby-led weaning approach, plus some spoon-feeding for things like yogurt and applesauce that are purees for everyone, not just babies. I read up on the latest research-based guidelines here, and it seems that other than delaying honey until after a year and not replacing breastmilk/formula with cow’s milk until a year, the current guidelines are basically “wait til they’re 6 months and then feed them whatever you want.” Even eggs, which used to be yolks only until age 1 are now deemed ok from 6 months on here. We aimed for healthy foods, little to no added salt and avoided cookies/granola bars/etc until she was more like a year and a half. (Those are still fairly rare, especially cookies, but she does get homemade muffins and the occasional granola bar. She also thinks that tofu and plain kidney beans are AWESOME so I think we’re doing ok.)
    Basically, I tried not to worry about it much and I’m sure I’ll be even more relaxed with my next kid. We gave her food specifically for her, but also a lot of tastes of what we were eating unless it was really salty or completely inappropriate for some other reason (like lettuce, which isn’t really very easy to eat until you have molars).

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  21. hannah Avatar
    hannah

    You probably know this, but just in case…
    You have to be careful your child doesn’t develop allergic reactions. If children are fed certain food too young, their body will develop an allergy towards it for life. So keep it simple. Go slowly in adding new food and monitor his reaction to each food you add to his diet. Make sure his cheeks don’t turn red or that he gets a rash on his cheek. If your child does develop an allergy towards some foods, every time he eats it, the allergy gets stronger and the reactions more serious.
    The later you introduce more complex food, the more his body is ready for it and the less chance for him to develop an allergy. I would stick to simple baby cereal, cooked vegetables and simple cooked fruit (like apples and pears). Adding each new food a few weeks apart.

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  22. Luisa Avatar

    Actually, unless food allergies run in a baby’s family, the theory that introducing certain foods too soon will lead to food allergies has been disproven. More here: http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/121/1/183.full

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  23. Elemjay Avatar
    Elemjay

    If there is so much inconsistency between doctors, different national health systems, and different countries it means that NO ONE really knows what’s right or wrong. I found this tremendously freeing – if no one knows then my guess is just as good as anyone else’s. Ha!
    That being said my 2.5 yr old daughter is much pickier than I would like. Who knows? Currently pregnant and I wonder how the new arrival will be…

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  24. Sally Avatar
    Sally

    I interpret the differences a little differently. With the exception of feeding honey to a child under 1 year, there is no right or wrong.

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  25. Honeybee Avatar
    Honeybee

    I love these baby food posts and reading through the comments!
    People often followe the “german” route you describe here in Switzerland, too. Carrots first, then add another vegetable after a week. That’s more or less what we did. Or start with fruit purees in the same way. It’s very interesting to read about the different approaches, goes to show that there isn’t just one way of doing it. I always added a little rapeseed oil to the vegetable purees for vitamin-absorption (I think). My mother was quite appalled when she saw me doing this, asking why I didn’t use butter as it would taste much nicer… 😉
    I have a feeling our second-born will be introduced to solids in a more easygoing way. The risotto we had for dinner? Perfect baby food!

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  26. Meera Avatar
    Meera

    Hi, I’ve enjoyed your blog for ages. Anyway, I’m in Australia and my boy had a mix of purées and baby led weaning foods, but very quickly graduated to blw versions of what we were having and naturally smooth foods like yoghurt or soup. At nearly two he is an excellent eater and has never had any choking or sensory issues, but I am prepared for him to get pickier as he ages and exerts control. I think blw helps them develop wider tastes and textural tolerances, and is way easier for me. I put all herbs and spices in our food, with the exception of chilli that my husband and I add at the table; and mix plain yoghurt in if I still thinks its too spicy or hot. And he still makes loads of mess – we just put a vinyl tablecloth or tarp under his chair and hose it down. Mess will happen for ages as kids learn to feed themselves! Perhaps try a mix of purée and blw? Purées to satisfy the initial hunger, then blw foods for fun and learning?

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  27. carissa Avatar
    carissa

    I totally skipped the recommended rice cereal. Why “train” her on something I don’t consider real food? We did a semi-baby-led weaning thing, meaning we did some finger foods right away, along with purees, and didn’t force it (and didn’t start solids til 6 months). Her first food was lightly mashed avocado, and the next day, a banana (like, we peeled it and let her hold it and gum it). I avoided salt at first, but never avoided spices (mushed peas and rice in coconut milk with a little curry powder, squash with cinnamon). I just stubbornly disbelieve that flavor/salt is bad (within reason, I know their little palates are sensitive) or that letting them eat fruit first makes them not like vegetables, etc. But, maybe we just got lucky with an easygoing kid. I hear firstborns like to trick you like that. 🙂
    FYI, now as a toddler, she definitely has picky phases where she suddenly decides not to eat chicken for 5 days or loves pears today but hates them tomorrow. And if anything comes in cracker or nugget form, she’s all over it. But, when she isn’t in one of “those” moods, she’s a decent eater for her age. For example the other night she ate curry coconut milk cauliflower soup with us (to my mild surprise).

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  28. Lindsay Avatar
    Lindsay

    Here in the US, I skipped the rice cereal too and started my daughter with pureed sweet potatoes at about 6 months. We quickly moved on to other pureed veggies and fruits, and within 1.5-2 months, she was on to table foods, including salmon and chicken. She hated avocados for a long time too, but now at 13 months, she eats one in a sitting. It’s just a lot of trial and error. If she didn’t like something, I’d offer it again and again. I was a little concerned that she wasn’t getting enough iron so I give her iron-fortified oatmeal most mornings for breakfast with raspberries or blueberries mixed in.

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  29. Charlotte Avatar

    Luisa, I had to laugh about the wallpaper paste comment – so true and exactly why I gave up feeding it to our boy and switched to oatmeal which I do like – he did too for a while. I got bored with the 3 days between new foods and moved on to mixed veggies and added yogurt and some spices and by 1 he was eating things like olives and blue cheese and ham and most veggies.

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  30. Verena Avatar
    Verena

    Oh yes, the baby rice. As a German living in London I was wholly unfamiliar with it. As every midwife told me to start with it, I gave it a go. No way. I just couldn’t see the point of it and stuck with the boiled carrots my German fellas recommended. Next time I would add a little cube of beef – after all it’s the iron they become short of, so why not a tiny amount of something that contains natural iron and isn’t iron fortified. At first I was totally overwhelmed by the subject like you, but then realized that you can’t do that much wrong. Worst they have a stomach ache, but that’s it.
    My mother in law insisted on bland foods, but Freddie had no problem with spicy foods. My Indian and Thai friends though stay away from chillies. When we once had a picnic in the park Freddie snatched some of my food out of my hands – he sat there with his tongue out trying to air it. But, apart from these uncomfortable 5 minutes, no further problems.
    Weaning is a funny business.

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  31. Verena Avatar
    Verena

    Oh and there was also the realisation that different foods give different coloured nappies! So I made it my goal to have rainbow nappies: sweet potatoe, beetroot, broccoli! Wonderful! Entertained me a lot the short time it worked 🙂

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  32. Whitney Avatar
    Whitney

    Hi Luisa,
    There is a lot of good info on here already, just goes to show mothers do know best!
    I am from Canada, my daughter is 16 months with another sibling on the way! There were 2 pieces of advice from our health care system I took to heart.
    – No honey or cow’s milk for the first year
    – Parents decide when to eat and what is served, baby decides how much
    I also liked the Baby Whisperer’s mantra (which I repeated so often the first year… and still do) “start as you mean to go on.” Ultimately this meant I would not be cooking a separate meal for dear daughter (obviously with some exception for the first few months of weaning).
    My end goal was to have our daughter eating the same meals as us every night (which I can say she does, though she might not like/eat everything served). Our doctor said to start with cereal, I started with carrots. My MIL and Mom both started us on cereals, but were intrigued with my approach (they are pretty easy going so if they had strong opinions I never heard them… how lucky am I?!) I introduced fruits and veg as you have and then moved on to more complex dinners (ones that we enjoy too). At 8 months she happily ate spaghetti with bolognese, indian coconut curry with chickpeas and spinach, beef stroganoff… She is always surprising me… Will not touch mashed potatoes, but loves brussle sprouts and cauliflower and anything with lemon.
    Lucky for us there are no allergies in the family so I was a lot more relaxed about feeding her… I even fed her strawberries gasp before she was 1. She was born in October so I didn’t want to deny her the pleasure of a fresh strawberry until the next spring/summer! Everything turned out fine and I plan to approach weaning the same way with the next baby.

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  33. kathy Avatar

    “french kids eat everything” is a book that everyone should read. Who knew that leeks were the best thing to start with. If I had to do it over again I would use this approach.

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  34. Eileen Avatar

    I love Jackie’s advice on nutrient dense foods and would add liver pate to the mix (before he hits that toddler stage of refusing everything!) In the end, do what feels right to you. Repeat this mantra: “Mama knows best.”

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  35. Marsha Calhoun Avatar
    Marsha Calhoun

    If you avoid anything choking size, and mush up whatever you are eating to a consistency that baby likes, it’s hard to go wrong. Somebody gave me a small food mill designed for that purpose, but I soon learned that a fork was equally effective. I started with rice cereal when my daughter first started reaching for my spoon as I was eating and holding her – about six months. My daughter was anemic, and rather than give her iron supplements (which we did for a while), I gently cooked chicken livers in butter and mashed them up with strawberry yogurt – sounds totally disgusting, but babykins loved it. Scrambled eggs, mashed fruits and vegetables of all kinds – she ate them all, and never had a food allergy. Humans are resilient and will let you know what they like, at any age.

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  36. Sarah Avatar
    Sarah

    I wrote a very panicked comment on your first post in this series as I felt totally at sea because of this whole cultural clash baby feeding hoo ha. The nurse here in Portugal was horrified that I had started with the rice cereal that the nurse in the UK had advised and I am still living down being the only mum not to know that the ideal first food was a soup of onion lettuce and olive oil! Anyway, since reading these posts and the comments I have generally taken a deep breath and just relaxed a bit (and stopped the obsessive googling…mostly) I still generally follow the Portuguese idea of soups that Ines mentioned(well they’re purees really as my spoon fiend is not having anything that runny!). However, thanks to you we have deviated quite a bit from the quite restrictive list of fruit and veg I was given while still avoiding honey, sugar, strawberries etc.But he’s loving trying loads of new fruit and veg beetroot, broccoli, even papaya hooray! I’m still worried about his iron intake as he isn’t eating a fortified cereal so despite being a veggie I am planning on introducing a little bit of meat soon. Also, if you grow up veggie in the rural part of Portugal I live in you are going to miss out on a lot of lovely meals and eat a LOT of omlettes in restaurants. I thought Jackie’s comment about nutrient dense foods made a lot of sense so onwards and upwards. Now I just have to resist checking out online when to introduce egg yolks and tofu and….

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  37. Sarah Avatar
    Sarah

    I wrote a very panicked comment on your first post in this series as I felt totally at sea because of this whole cultural clash baby feeding hoo ha. The nurse here in Portugal was horrified that I had started with the rice cereal that the nurse in the UK had advised and I am still living down being the only mum not to know that the ideal first food was a soup of onion lettuce and olive oil! Anyway, since reading these posts and the comments I have generally taken a deep breath and just relaxed a bit (and stopped the obsessive googling…mostly) I still generally follow the Portuguese idea of soups that Ines mentioned(well they’re purees really as my spoon fiend is not having anything that runny!). However, these posts and the comments have made me realise that there are mums feeding their babies all kinds of different things and those babies are all doing fine. So, thanks to you we have deviated quite a bit from the very restrictive list of fruit and veg I was given. He’s loved trying new things like beetroot, broccoli, even papaya hooray! I’m still worried about his iron intake as he isn’t eating a fortified cereal so despite being a veggie I am planning on introducing a little bit of meat soon. Also, if you grow up veggie in the rural part of Portugal I live in you are going to miss out on a lot of lovely meals and eat a LOT of omlettes in restaurants. I thought Jackie’s comment about nutrient dense foods made a lot of sense so onwards and upwards. Now I just have to resist checking out online when to introduce egg yolks and tofu and….

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  38. emily Avatar
    emily

    My daughter, and first baby, is the same age as Hugo and I’m loving this series. It is so easy to go crazy with all the conflicting advice about how to feed your baby.
    I’d love a post on how you are dealing with feeding him meat and fish. I’ve had a general policy of only feeding her things I would want to eat and the idea of pureed chicken seems disgusting. I’ve been thinking about other options until she can really chew things. Like maybe using ground meats? Fish seems easier since it is softer and flakey.

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  39. dervla @The Curator Avatar

    Yay, a photo of Hugo! Love that little pudgy face. I tried rice cereal and very quickly (like after Lily’s first bite) gave up on it. Niamh moved even faster to regular food and pretty much existed on avocados for months. All the different opinions just go to show that babies can pretty much eat anything!

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  40. Nuts about food Avatar

    I live in Italy, so my babies’ first meals were rice cereal cooked in the stock you mention (made with carrot, zucchini and potato), then mixing in the mashed vegetables from the stock, a tablespoon of Parmesan cheese and olive oil. This with variations in vegetables, protein and cereal as we went on. Of course, because I am half German and half American I tended to give them pretty much everything (mixing what the various cultures suggested) in their first year except for salt, sugar (and goods that can cause dangerous allergies of course, such as nuts and shellfish), because whatever a culture deems as ok will not put your child’s health at risk, I believe. It is just a matter of habit and availability of ingredients. In my opinion, this will get them used to a large variety of foods and make you more serene in the process. All of the above, obviously taking into account each childs’ preferences or dislikes: some like smooth textures, some like their food more lumpy or toothsome; some prefer fruit, others savory… so much of it is just trying constantly and keeping in mind their ever changing tastes. But you know that better than me!

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  41. Comunicavox Avatar

    Hi everybody! There are so many good advices in this post and in the comments, thank you.
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  42. Photorecipe Avatar

    Hi, great blog, congrats! Besides, your kid is adorable!
    Regards,
    Photorecipe

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  43. Vivian Avatar
    Vivian

    Nothing helpful or insightful to add, but omgawd your baby is so cute and angelic.

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  44. Laurel Avatar
    Laurel

    So many good comments and interesting advice. I had a pediatrician berate me for not having my daughter eating rice cereal at 5 months (iron reserves start to dip at 4 months! If babies don’t get enough iron it can damage their brains!). So, now pregnant with No.2, I am awed and relieved to see so many people taking different approaches and with much more relaxed attitudes. I’ll just share, for fun, the advice that my mother-in-law gave that she was horrified I ignored: you have to start feeding baby orange juice from a spoon from 2 weeks old to get them used to being spoon-fed, then start adding cereal at 2 months! She totally didn’t believe me that this goes against all current advice for infants.

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  45. Alexia Avatar

    I started out with rice cereal (my mom) and then quickly moved to sweet potato (mom was horrified it wasnt applesauce) let her eat loads of fruits and veggies (puréed frozen cherries were organic so I bought them!) while watching for allergies. I let my dad (from Italy) feed her her first Pastine (because that’s what you do). Let her try hot salsa at 10 months (she cried). I say, stay away from cows milk (just the straight up drink, not yogurt or cheese) honey, nuts, and shellfish until,age one and feed the rest with reckless abandon. I fed my daughter some things that she wasn’t ready for. She threw them up and we all moved on. Have fun!

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  46. red pink Avatar
    red pink

    im from india and there the first foods we generally give ( well atleast in my part of india! ) are ragi or finger millet porridge =) What we generally do is either of the two
    a) Wash and soak the millet overnight or even 10 15 minutes the longer u soak the better to extract the white seed inside. After soaking u basically grind the millet up with either water or milk and STRAIN IT a couple of times using the finest strainer. The reason we do this is cause the brown outer part doesnt really get broken down by our bodies and hence the aim is to eliminate as much of it as u can , then u add palm sugar or jaggery, basically unrefined sugar if u can and cook it over the stove until it gets thick , adjust the consistency by adding enough water or milk and hey presto millet porridge =)
    B) For ease , we tend to wash and dry the millet and then get it powdered in mills so its a very fine powder. then u just mix the powder up with water or milk, strain a couple o times and proceed as above.
    Now millet is supposedly very high in iron, which might attribute its star status as baby food in india =)
    then we start off with pureed veggies , pulses even, like moong dal ( very good for baby ) We also add clarified butter ( ghee ) and even virgin coconut oil ! I have a 1 year old and right now he eats all of this plus whatever we eat really. I ve noticed that he likes his spice, he tends to gravitate towards thngs that are sour,spicy and basically anything that is NOT bland!! he also likes meat so i let him have all that as much as he wants ,.If he tends not to like something i just dont really force him, i figure theres enough time for him to figure out whether he likes it or not in due time.. =) And yes in india we tend to actually say dont not introduce the child to spice cause then he;ll never like it =D Which is sacrilege for us really LOL. funny the way the world works eh ? =)

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  47. Aline Avatar

    I saw you already got an answer from an actual person from India but I wanted to add I went to a special “first food” celebration party for the 6 month old baby of one of our Indian friends and they offered all kinds of different (traditional) dishes with lots of spices to her. I was a bit shocked because there were veggies that were not cut up very small and there was dairy too. The kid tried everything but spit out most of the food.
    I am Austrian, living in the US. One of my “comfort foods” for a long time when I was a kid was Milchreisbrei, so I guess that was one of my first foods I must have been fed. Also “Apfel-Banane”, which is pretty self-explanatory – my mom threw an apple and a banana in the blender and it was lunch.
    I said it here before – my daughter Linnea’s first food was avocado and it’s still pretty much her favorite food, even now that she is almost two years old. Avocado on toast, guacamole or just mashed up avocado with salt.
    Anyway, what I came here to say is that apart from honey and nuts, there really isn’t much you can’t give Hugo. If you want to be especially safe, follow the American rule of giving one food for three days in a row but he has to try everything anyway at some point. When you try dairy or eggs, try them in the morning and have some Benedryl handy. Also, my daughter has always been on the skinny side, so very early on I added either butter or olive oil to a lot of the veggies I made. I also frequently roasted a head of garlic and mixed in some roasted garlic, to get her to eat food she didn’t like before.
    Until my daughter was about 16 month old, she was also really into spicy food. Not anymore, tastes change unfortunately. I wish my daughter was still such an open minded and adventurous eater.
    I have to say though that my experience is that if your kid is allergic to foods, you will find out pretty soon. All the kids I know that have major food allergies are allergic to lots of things. If for example, you find that Hugo does not tolerate eggs or milk well, I would be more careful with other foods too. My daughter wasn’t allergic to anything, so I soon started mixing foods and letting her try soft foods that we were eating too.
    But be careful – some fruits (like strawberry) cause diarrhea in younger babies but it won’t kill them, it will just be unpleasant.

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  48. Zoe Avatar
    Zoe

    American parents but lived all my life in the UK and China, and married to an Englishman so I’ve had it from all sides telling me contradictory stuff…
    I had intended the first thing my son (now 14 months) would have after 6 months of exclusive breastmilk would be some carrots, then gradually increase slowly because of allergies. And I would make him lots of lovely home-made things to feed him.
    What actually happened was, at 5 months and two teeth he grabbed a tuna melt off my plate and took a huge bite, then opened his mouth for more. Second thing he had was a plain tortilla chip with guacamole (containing garlic, chili, lemon etc). Loved that too.
    I then went back to work at 6 months with a 2 hour each way commute and my plans of cooking lovely things on the weekends went totally out the window when our nanny wasn’t massively confident about defrosting things and feeding him. So we feed him whatever we’re eating that day, and the nanny fed him pouches from Ella’s Kitchen, HIPP and Plum Organics – luckily the ones available here are pretty interesting flavours with no crap in them (fish pie, bean stew, caribbean chicken, thai green curry etc).
    Now he’s 14 months he eats everything and anything, but we have noticed a slight reaction to eggs where his eyes get itchy. This has developed just in the last week or so – the first 8 months he ate eggs with no issues whatsoever – so I don’t think starting slow or early makes any difference one way or the other really.

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  49. Mary Anne Avatar
    Mary Anne

    My ‘babies’ are 26 and 22 years old. The pediatrician asked me if I was ever going to introduce solid food to the the older child! The food debate for babies was going on then and it doesn’t seem to have changed too much since, except the Internet provides so many more opinions from people who don’t know you or your child.
    I made ‘baby food’ for each, purees as well as stews and soups, using spices, onions, etc. but introduced everything slowly as my sister had a wide range of food allergies and I wanted to be careful in case my kids might, not because I was worried about triggering any. (BTW she developed all of those allergies in her mid-20s and each of her sons had food allergies from birth, some the same, several different.)
    By the time my second was six months old he was gumming away at tiny pieces of steak and whatever else was on our plate. We were much more relaxed about it. We stuck to no honey, no eggs, no peanut butter and no milk until one year old for each.
    Kids decide what they like and have phases where one or two foods might be all they want. I always offered more but didn’t fight over control issues.
    People are right, trust your instincts, watch your child’s reactions and open up the world of food to them.
    Zoe, I’d watch that reaction to eggs. One of my nephews has an egg allergy and for him exposure triggers eczema. I don’t know how early they test for allergies where you are but it might be a good idea to ask about it.
    Luisa, love your columns!

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  50. Lulu Avatar
    Lulu

    Honey, poor cooked fruits and vegetables would be my biggest worry after feeding lots of babies. This weekend my friends 8 month old grandson got a little chokey on cornbread but after his persistence with it all was well. He didn’t want to let it go. 🙂
    My nephew had a challenge with the texture of most meats even as a tot.

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