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In early December I started feeding Hugo his first solids. Since then I've gotten so many requests to write about what I feed him that I started to realize that just one post to cover it probably wouldn't do. After all, what I feed Hugo changes every week and anyway, it turns out that the whole topic of baby food is way more complicated than I ever thought. There's a lot of ground to cover.

(Who knew? I didn't. Oof.)

It's been heartening, really – I've found navigating what to feed Hugo often very confusing, and all those requests clearly show that I'm not alone. So I've been thinking: how about a once-weekly post where I write about what I fed him this week, what's been working and what hasn't, what tips I might have figured out and what frustrations I'm currently dealing with? It would be lovely to hear what those of you with small babies are dealing with, too, as you navigate the world of solid foods with your little one.

I'll call the column, as it were, Cooking for Hugo and it'll show up here once a week. I'll hide most of it behind a jump so that those of you who are interested can click your way on in and those of you who aren't don't feel assaulted by mushy peas and carrots. It'll cover everything having to do with feeding babies, from recipes to gear to differing "philosophies" on how babies should be fed. I think it'll be fun? I hope it'll be helpful.

Let's get started. Come on in!


To kick things off, I thought I'd give a little overview of where we stand these days. Hugo is 7 1/2 months old and has been eating solids since he was 6 months old. Our pediatrician had recommended that we start at 4 months, but after a few days of giving him a few spoonfuls of puréed squash or carrots, our peaceful little boy got an upset stomach and awfully disturbed sleep, which I took to mean that he simply wasn't ready yet and went back to nursing him exclusively. At 6 months, he was far more interested in what we were eating, his eyes following our forks' every move. So one day, I plopped him down in his little bouncy chair, puréed a boiled carrot, and spooned some into his mouth. The reaction was instantaneous! His eyes lit up, he swallowed and then opened his mouth eagerly for more.

Since then, we've gone through quite a few different vegetables – carrots to start, then parsnips, potatoes, fennel, beets, broccoli, leeks, peas, zucchini and broccoflower. I bring a little bit of water to the boil, slice in whatever vegetable we're having, boil until tender, then purée with a bit of the cooking water until it's creamy and loose. Before feeding the purée to Hugo, I mix in a drizzle of olive oil and then we're good to go.

The first few times I pulled out the immersion blender, Hugo would start to cry – he hated the noise. But then he figured out that soon after hearing that noise he would get something delicious to eat and now whenever I start to blend, he gets all impatient for food.

At first, I'd feed Hugo each vegetable for several days in a row, to get him used to it. But when I realized that he really just didn't like some things (potatoes and sweet potatoes, for example – weird, right?), I didn't insist. Then I started getting daring. We were out an Indian restaurant one day and he was getting very loud and insistent – whenever we put a forkful of food in our mouths, he'd open his and then scream when he didn't get any! So I fed him a little raita, a bite from my mashed potato dosa filling and a tiny dollop of coconut chutney. The look on this face as he tasted these things was hilarious – slightly horrified and also very intrigued.

Hugo already has clear favorites. He adores parsnips, fennel, beets and zucchini and will gobble them up in no time. He loves fruit (I was making my own purées for a while and then decided that I needed a break from all the constant prepping, cooking, and cleaning up – and that he needed more variety than what I could find at the store, so now I buy puréed fruit mixtures from the store, like blueberries in applesauce, or peaches with passionfruit, and feel much better) and thinks plain whole milk yogurt is the most delicious thing on the planet. I think I could probably mix chicken liver in with yogurt and he'd eat it.

With an Italian mother, a German mother-in-law, and my own (American?) ideas about feeding babies, I've got a lot of conflicting information swirling around in my head at any given time. Add those cultural differences to the more than 30 years that separate my mothering experience from both of Hugo's grandmothers' and there's even more to discuss and (gently) disagree on.

I feel pretty good about where we are right now – with Hugo dipping his toes into the varied and colorful world of fruits and vegetables. (We also give him hot cereal once a day – right now cream of millet is his favorite, but he's showing a keen interest in oatmeal, too.) How about you? What cultural differences do you struggle with when feeding your baby? What does he or she love (and hate?) to eat? Furthermore, what other aspects of baby-feeding would you like us to cover here? From baby-led weaning to high chairs to "French"-style baby food versus "American", there is so much to explore…

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112 responses to “Cooking for Hugo”

  1. Luisa Avatar
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    Aw, that’s lovely, thank you.

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  3. Luisa Avatar

    Thanks! He was smiling at me because I was telling him to! 🙂

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    Wonderful tip on the tumbler. He doesn’t seem to really “get” the sippy cup yet – he just chews on it!

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  7. Luisa Avatar

    Thank you! And I heart DALS so much.

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    thank you! And yes, I agree that a little salt and seasoning is a good thing!

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    To keep him regular and so that the veg tastes better! 🙂 No idea yet on meat – we hardly eat any at all at home, so probably not for a while.

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  11. Luisa Avatar

    Thanks! That’s why I thought fruit purées would be fine – I’d eat them. But I wouldn’t eat the veg ones – ugh!

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  12. Luisa Avatar

    Love your rules! The French vs American thing is referring to the recently published book, Bringing Up Bebe, where the author writes about the French philosophy on introducing children to new (often, for our taste buds, sophisticated) foods versus the American habit of constant snacks and “kid food”.

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  13. Luisa Avatar

    Oh, Sarah, I could have written this comment. I feel you, sister! There is so much confusion and contradiction! We’re going to sort it all out. For what it’s worth: it seems to me like you are doing everything just right. Your gut is a good guide! The peaches are baby food in a glass from the store – labeled for children over 4 months, so I just figured, since he’d had no adverse reactions to plums (prunes), which are also stone fruit, that it’d be good to try. I haven’t started with meat yet – we hardly eat it at home, so I think it’ll be a while yet.

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  14. Luisa Avatar

    Ha! I reeled you in!

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  15. Luisa Avatar

    Ooh, going to look for the Clara column now. And congrats to you! You’re in the home stretch now.

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  16. Luisa Avatar

    You and your mom are absolutely correct!

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    Ann – thank you! I’m so glad you liked the book.

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    Okay, I’ll definitely write about that!

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    Yes, it really is so much fun!

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    And thank you!

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    Thanks, Omar! Hopefully there will be some delicious tips in there for you, too 🙂

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  24. Kaffeebohne Avatar

    Hi Luisa, where is the time gone? Your boy is sitting at a table – weren’t you in labour just yesterday 😉 ?
    I cooked for both of my kids and I started feeding them solids in the age of 6 month. I also started with little amounts of food when I tried something new. I didn’t cook fresh everyday. I froze small portions and reheated them. I had small boxes with 60g content and then we made 60 g mashed potatoes and 60 g karrots and something else.
    The problem I had was that nobody encourages me to prepare your meals yourself. Even the doctor told me to buy food.
    When I had my daughter and I was cooking for my son anyway I used some of our food and decided what will go for her.
    You can also give him rice or noodles or kohlrabi and any type of squash.
    My son started having lunch at kindergarten in the age of 5. They served a lot of processed food and this was the end of easy eating with him. He only eats a few things and I cook them fresh to provide him with all he needs. My daughter never ate out and it is easier to cook for her.

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    Francesca

    Dear Luisa,
    when I had my first child, I had no idea what I should give her to eat. My Italian mother was far away and my German mother-in-law too close and patronizing. Besides, as in your case, their experience laid more than 30 years back. Fortunately my pediatrician gave me a little booklet which really made sense to me. I followed the tips and the recipes and had a very good experience. When my second child came, 5 1/2 years later, we had moved and I could not find the booklet anymore so I tried the internet and, luckily enough, I found it there. So here it is, maybe it will be of help for you too:
    http://www.mlr.baden-wuerttemberg.de/mlr/allgemein/Von%20Anfang%20an%20mit%20Spass.pdf
    We are not big on meat either, but I did include the recommended little amount of meat in the meal for the sake of iron and so did a vegetarian friend of mine.
    I always cooked the meals myself and bought the baby food glasses for travels. Funnily enough, my children did not seem to appreciate them that much.
    Cari saluti e complimenti per il tuo bellissimo bimbo!

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    Francesca

    Oh, and thank you so very much for the link to the Downton Abbey series! I had seen the first one in German and it was a real treat to be able to watch the other two in English. Maggie Smith is just too good to be heard in any other language.

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  27. Sasha Avatar

    Even though I don’t have a baby, I am still excited about this new feature. Since our appetites start to develop from our birth, I find it interesting to read about how a child learns to eat and how a mother navigates that journey.
    I would love to read about “Italian” style and “German” style baby food, as well as debates regarding when (and if) to allow a child to eat sugar.

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  28. Lindsay Avatar
    Lindsay

    I have a one-year-old girl who loves to eat–with a mama who doesn’t have as much time to cook as she used to!–so I am very interested in this. Now that my daughter is past the puree stage and on to table foods, I am trying to find time-saving recipes that we can all eat so I don’t have to do the short-order cook thing. It’s hard since there are certain ingredients, like salt, that we don’t want to give her too much of, but I would love any recipe suggestions that you have. Looking forward to this series!

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  29. Selkie Avatar
    Selkie

    ‘Hugo’ posting: 80 comments, ‘chocolate Sables’: 24 comments. Just saying….

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    Neha

    Hi Luisa – I don’t have a child, but am looking forward to reading these posts (along with everything else you write)! Also, your son is so handsome!
    I have a nutrition/public health background and spent the past year in rural India working with mothers of 6-11 month old children, where we ended up promoting daily servings of whatever vegetables, legumes and grains they were making at home that week (it was a mostly vegetarian community), along with fruit when they could afford it, and one egg per week. This was with an aim to meet the babies’ iron, zinc and other micronutrient requirements. The egg recommendation was probably the most difficult to follow since most babies initially didn’t like the taste (or perhaps the texture?) of it, but trying to re-introduce it in their diet after a couple of weeks or so usually worked.
    A couple of friends with children here in London also swear by a portable baby food grinder that comes in handy when they are out and about.

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    Honeybee

    It’s the same, no matter where you live: lots of contradicting information – very helpful, indeed. On one hand, we are told to breastfeed exclusively for six months, on the other hand, new studies seem to have shown that letting your baby try a great variety of foods as early as possible (at 4 months, apparently) can help prevent allergies. I followed my gut and introduced solids at about six months because it seemed to me that our daughter wasn’t ready before that. Since I went back to work when she was six months and she started going to the nursery, we bottle-fed her formula for a little while, too. Getting used to the nursery and learning to eat solids in one go seemed a bit too much. It turned out fine.

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    bea

    Hi Louisa,
    your Hugo is just SO handsome!
    I have 3 children, twins (4 years old) and a little girl (22 months). They were weaned in completely different ways, and if I could do iover again with the twins, I would.
    Giulia, my third child, was simply… plomped at the table with us, and given whatever food she chose to eat from our dishes. Until she got so interested, and the quantities became such, that she was given her own plate. Her first food was fusilli with sausage and mushrooms (we are italian): she suched on her fusillo with toothless gums, and when it was completely shredded, asked for a second one.
    This is a new protocol recommended by many paediatricians in italy. You don’t replace milk (formula or mom’s) with solids, just give both until the child is interested only in the solids.
    The only problem is that all the family has to eat in a healthy way, so that the baby can choose and taste hatever she wants. The only limitations are alcohol and caffeine.
    (cfr. Lucio Piermarini, Io Mi Svezzo Da solo)

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  33. Gemma Avatar

    I don’t have anything to offer on baby food (apart from the suggestion to offer a frozen banana to gnaw on for teething pain!) but I just had to stop and say how gorgeous Hugo is!

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    Katharina

    I love the idea of a baby food column, as my little guy is also just 8 month now. I started to feed him mashed veggies but he would always take the spoon from me. So I read around and decided to do baby lead weaning and he loves it! We just sit him in his high chair when we eat and he gets his selection of steamed or fried vegetables, bread and fruit. I don’t give him anything that has added sugar or salt in it. And my midwife warned me about giving him milk, yogurt and meat before the age of one, which is fine with me as I don’t eat a lot of these things myself. I actually don’t know the reason why you are not supposed to give them yogurt and meat. She said something about the baby growing too fast and thus loosing energy. (She is chinese, so this is probably from the perspective of chinese medicin)
    In any case I’m looking forward to hearing about your experiences with Hugo- who is supercute by the way!

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  35. Allison Kirchner Avatar

    I have a 3 1/2 month old so I am beginning to think about solid foods. I can’t wait to see what your experiences are. Do you make your own hot cereal?

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  36. Allison Avatar

    I have a 3 1/2 month old so I am beginning to think about solid foods. I can’t wait to see what your experiences are. Do you make your own hot cereal?

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  37. Andrea Avatar

    Hugo is so full of joy! Love it.
    My little man is just over 4 months and starting to pay interest when we eat and drink. I’m so excited to introduce him to solids and would LOVE to read your thoughts and experiences as you navigate the waters. Keep it coming please Luisa!
    (long time reader brought out of woodwork by cute baby)

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  38. Lynn Greenlee Avatar
    Lynn Greenlee

    Luisa,
    I recently discovered Alexis Stewart’s blog (Martha Stewart’s daughter). She has an almost 2 year old and an almost 1 year old for whom she cooks (and freezes) everything fresh from scratch. The recipes and the care she uses in preparing food for her children are stunning. I think you would enjoy the blog.
    http://www.alexisstewart.com/blog_alexis_stewart/blog/blog.html
    Lynn
    (long time reader – first time commenter)

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    sarah

    Thank you both! Feeling much calmer already. It’s so interesting reading all the comments about what other people are doing as well, this is a great idea Luisa. Thanks again.

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    Karen

    I’m not sure if I can answer the question about French vs American baby-feeding habits but it does seem that it is quite a cultural issue.
    I live in France, am British and married to a Japanese man so there is quite a mix when it comes to dinner time in our house! Paediatricians here in France seem to vary widely in their advice but I have mostly just done my own thing with my almost-one-year-old based on my reading, my gut instinct and what my daughter likes.
    Like other commenters, my daughter prefers solid food she can put in her mouth herself rather than purees (though we didn’t set out to do BLW). I soon began adding mild-ish spices to her vegetables such as cinnamon, cumin, etc. Favourites are oven-roasted vegetables, steamed fish, lentils, breads of all types, plain fromage frais and fresh fruit.
    We recently started letting her eat some of the Japanese food we eat (so lots of veg flavoured with soy sauce, mirin, dark sesame oil) and she seems to love it. The only real problems we have had is with eggs, which led to spectacular vomitting. They are now strictly off the menu, as is meat, since we don’t eat any.
    I also add a little oil to vegetables. In France they say to add some kind of fat (oil or a little unsalted butter) to vegetable purees to make them more digestible and also to increase the fat/calorie content, which is so important for little babies who need energy but can’t eat huge amounts. I vary the oils (nuts, various seeds, olive, etc) to get the important EFAs.
    Oh, and I ditto what another poster said about the joys of re-embracing full-fat dairy. Petit Suisse at over 10% fat content – yikes but oh my gosh, so good!!

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    i

    Lovely – my twins are past 2 now and eat almost everything with gusto, most days – appetites come and go. For the first year of solid food, being able to make a range of things fast was important, so I’d set aside a morning after a farmer’s market day to steam broccoli, kale, carrots, beets, corn, beans, and run them one type at a time through a mill (if I had it to do over again I might have gotten an immersion blender), and pour them into large ice cube trays for a week’s veg. Also bananas, plums, applesauce, pear sauce, but we kept the sweet fruit back until they were a little older so they had a chance to like the vegs first. Eventually, we’d mix these with yogurt and rice or barley or other cereals; later we’d add a small bit of whatever we were having for dinner – fish, shrimp, chicken, tofu.
    Frozen mushy peas and corn were good for teething babies.
    We found avocados, while beloved, made them ill until they were about 1.
    Rice porridge with a little chicken or fish and pureed greens; now, small chunks of whatever we eat. They love olives, sharp cheese, garlic, shrimp, fish, noodles, puckery pickles, lemons; chickpeas are a new favorite, and as they get older, we’ve found it important to keep rotating things and trying new tastes, textures, shapes and colours. And remembering that it’s what they eat over the course of a week, not one meal, that matters.

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    NSH

    I don’t have any children, but I’m REALLY curious about what different cultures’ attitudes are towards food for infants — could you write a bit about that?

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  43. Row Avatar

    One word: Awwwwww! 😀

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  44. Hannah Avatar

    Are you KIDDING me!!! Hugo is SO STINKING CUTE! Sheesh. That grin! Those eyes! Delicious.
    My guys are now just four and almost two – it has been fascinating seeing how differently they eat and what different food loves they have. We started them each with avocado, sweet potato, carrots and peas, and then moved on to more and more fruits and veg. They both hated peas, one hated avocado – but avocados and peas are now favorites all around. My older one (still) is always eager to try new things, while the younger one (still) is hesitant and tends to ask for old favorites when presented with something even slightly new (for example – he loves penne and asks for this when we try different pasta shapes – frustrating and cute at the same time!) I’ll look forward to reading about your feeding adventures with this little stunner. And what a darling he is, already wanting to try Indian food! Yum.

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  45. Sally Avatar
    Sally

    I think if I were feeding a child today, I’d follow the advice my doctor gave me about salt in the diet: don’t worry about what you use in cooking or at the table, but avoid processed foods. About 75% of our salt intake comes from processed foods.

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    orcagna@web.de

    Regarding sources, not sure if you know the “Feeding Babies and Small Children” section in Nigella Lawson’s first book “How To Eat”?

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  47. laurel Avatar

    I love this topic and I think its great! I have three boys, 7, 4, and 3. My three year old is disabled and very delayed so still eats very mushy food and is selective.
    With my first I fed him a lot of easy to prepare processed foods (I was working a lot). He had a hard time expanding his ‘palate’.
    With my second, I wanted to breastfeed longer and feed more natural foods. I started pureeing batches of veggies and freezing about half of it and using the other half that week. He adapted far more easily to new foods.
    With my third, he has been in the baby stage for so long I pureed whatever veggie I am cooking (and even meats or starches sometimes) and fed him that. He loves table food as long as it is soft enough, and now eats most of what we eat, just in bite sized pieces. And he has sensory issues, so that is a giant step.
    Each child presents different challenges, but I definitely think feeding them pureed homemade food helps them to develop tastes for different flavors, instead of the bland, texture-less baby food offerings in the grocery store.

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