Parents Need to Eat Too
Way back in the early days of food blogging, when there were only about six people doing it, a woman named Debbie Koenig started a blog called Words to Eat By. Long before I started this site, I read hers and loved it. Debbie lived in New York, like me, had worked in publishing, like me, plus her recipe for chocolate chip cookies really was so good. It's not a big leap to say that she certainly helped inspire my own jump into food blogging.

When Debbie and her husband had their son in 2006, she realized, as most of us then do, that cooking with a baby is a whole new universe to navigate. Where once you thought nothing of spending an afternoon in the kitchen to make an elaborate dinner, you now have a screaming baby attached to your body, in desperate need of your full attention, to the detriment of your ability to shower, pee or even just make a sandwich. Bit by bit, Debbie figured out her way back into the kitchen and was inspired to help other mothers get their sea legs cooking again.

Parents Need to Eat Too, her book and the name her blog has since taken over, is a compendium of all the wisdom she gained over the years since then. By teaching cooking classes to new mothers and keeping the conversation alive on her website, Debbie found herself with scores of recipes and tips to share with other sleep-deprived, harried and hungry new mothers. Parents Need to Eat Too holds all of them, plus a glut of information on freezing big batches of food, foods to promote milk production and soothing reassurances that one day things will feel normal again, even if right now your world is one big mess of burp clothes, peanut butter eaten out of a jar and multi-night wakeups.

I first read Parents Need to Eat Too when Hugo was a few weeks old. I hadn't though it possible before, but just like they tell you, in those days I couldn't figure out how to do anything but nurse Hugo. I barely found time to shower and dress and fixing myself a bowl of yogurt (as in, open fridge, get yogurt, find bowl, pour yogurt into bowl, get spoon and eat) seemed so remote and difficult that the one time I managed to do so I felt a level of achievement I hadn't had since learning how to tell time in the third grade. Oh, early motherhood! You are a kick in the teeth.

Debbie's book was a breath of fresh air. The few parenting books I had scattered around the apartment filled me with dread (nap schedules? infant character profiles?), but reading Parents Need to Eat Too was the soothing distraction I really needed. It didn't matter that I actually was in no position to cook again just yet. Debbie was telling me that I would be again, in time, and that it was just a matter of being patient and resourceful until then. At a time when everything I knew about my old life was gone, it was deeply comforting to know that.

I've, of course, long found my way back to the kitchen, but these days I find myself reaching for Debbie's book all the time. Because now is the time that I'm really cooking for my family. Max is living at home again (praise be!), Hugo no longer needs his little pots of puréed veg (glory be!) and getting food on the table for all of us is my job. Along with everything else I do. So what I'm looking for these days is help in preparing dishes that all of us will eat, as well as stocking the freezer for those days when I just don't have the time to cook and finding recipes I can make with one hand tied behind my back.

Parents Need to Eat Too has all of that, but is tailor-made for those of us who love to cook anyway and don't want Hamburger Helper to get dinner on the table. The recipes are relatively sophisticated despite their supreme easiness and there are lots of delicious things to get excited about. (Big-Batch Adobo Chicken is next on my to-do list.) Currently, I'm having a delightful love affair with the slow cooker chapter even though I don't own a slow cooker. (Debbie says that a cast-iron pot with a lid in a low oven mimics the heat of a slow cooker pretty well.) So the other day I decided to try my hand at brisket.

I bought a big slab of brisket meat after a hilarious back-and-forth with the German butcher who, despite my having researched this exhaustively online beforehand, had no idea what I was talking about and a bottle of apple juice (I already had barbecue sauce in my fridge leftover from this).The prep was almost comically simple: First, I preheated the oven to 200 degrees F (about 90 degrees C) and put the slab of meat in my biggest cast-iron pot. Then I poured in a cup of apple juice and a cup of barbecue sauce. Then I put the lid on the pan and put it in the oven for about 6 hours. And That Was It.

Sliced brisket

When I removed the pot from the oven and took off the lid, the brisket – shrunken from its impressive girth in its raw state – was dark brown and fragrant, swimming in a pool of mahogany cooking liquid. I sliced it thinly and spooned the liquid over each portion. The meat was wonderfully lean and flavorful, pleasing both Hugo and his daddy. (Hugo loves chomping away on the meat for a while, then spitting it out once he's leached all the good stuff out, so while I can't guarantee that your child will have quite the same delightful table manners as mine does, the recipe is definitely kid-friendly.) We had a big dinner, the three of us, and I packed the freezer full of leftovers, my biggest thrill these days.

Along with Dinner: A Love Story for people with children over 3 and which I wrote about here, Parents Need to Eat Too is the best parenting resource for cooks.

Barbecued Brisket
Serves 6 to 8
From Parents Need to Eat Too

1 3-4-pound brisket, trimmed of as much fat as possible
1 cup barbecue sauce (if store-bought, then as natural as possible)
1 cup apple juice

1. Put the brisket in the slow cooker or a large cast-iron pot (if using the pot, preheat the oven to 200 degrees F). Pour the sauce and juice on top, making sure some of the liquid ends up underneath the meat. The meat should not be fully submerged.

2. Cook on LOW for 6 to 8 hours or, if using the pot, for 6, checking once at the 5-hour-mark. The brisket is done when a fork pierces the meat easily. Slice the meat against the grain thinly, then serve with the cooking liquid. Debbie suggests rounding out the meal with these beans and cornbread.

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43 responses to “Cooking for Hugo: Debbie Koenig’s Barbecued Brisket”

  1. Shortblackcoffee.wordpress.com Avatar

    Hi Luisa! So which cut did you end up buying at the butcher? I never know what to get either. Rinderbrust seems to be the only cut I came up with after researching, but I can’t seem to get it anywhere. The only stewing meat I can find is Rindergoulasch but that’s just a top round cut, I think. Great recipe by the way!

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  2. Mallory @ Because I Like Chocolate Avatar

    Man it’s hard to believe that only a few people used to food blog. Now there are thousands of us! Yours is still one of my favourites though, thanks for the recipe!

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  3. Trisha Avatar

    This Brisket looks delicious. mmmmmmMMMMmm

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  4. debbie koenig Avatar

    This was the nicest possible thing to wake up to, Luisa. I’m honored, and delighted. Verklempt, even. Plus I loved that blast-from-the-past link to the olden days… Thank you so much!

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  5. Dorothee Avatar
    Dorothee

    I second shortblackcoffees question! Would love to recreate this and other meat recipes from home. Things I haven’t solved in German yet: brisket, short ribs and london broil. Anyone?

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  6. Ines Avatar
    Ines

    Hi, Luisa,
    Do you know about Ellyn Satter? http://ellynsatterinstitute.org/
    She has the most common sense advice for feeding children.

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  7. Luisa Avatar

    Well, butchers posting on German barbecue forums said to ask for Brustkern, which is what I did. But the lady at my butcher’s just looked at me blankly upon hearing that. (Maybe it’s a regional thing?) Then she went and got an enormous piece of Rinderbrust that had been hanging from a hook and slammed it onto the table and asked me if that was what I wanted. I asked for a chunk to be taken off from the non-pointy end, which did end up looking quite brisket-y. Hope this helps!

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  8. Luisa Avatar

    See my answer to shortblackcoffee above regarding the brisket question. London Broil, as far as I understand, is part of the flank which is butchered totally differently in Germany than in the US. You can ask for a piece of the Lappen…and see what happens. No idea on short ribs. Good luck!

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  9. Luisa Avatar

    Yup! She’s great.

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  10. Emily Avatar

    THANK YOU!!!! (yes I’m excited) for sharing this book!(!!!) I don’t know how, but I had no idea of its existence, and it sounds like just what I need in my life. As a mom to a 2-month old, I’m starting, that is, barely, barely starting to regain my sea legs in the kitchen, though mostly still only if my husband makes it home early enough or my mom comes over for an hour to tend the baby so I can do things like shower and make a meal. This book sounds like just the thing to help with some confidence building and much needed inspiration. I’m ordering it right now! Also, I know exactly what you mean about the yogurt!!! My first couple weeks of being a mom, my diet was primarily kefir because I couldn’t even manage to find a hand to wield a spoon for yogurt. 🙂 Now I’m becoming practiced in the fine art of cracking and frying and egg all with one hand while the other balances a little person (who is becoming more and more squirmy).

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  11. Devon Avatar
    Devon

    Isn’t stocking the freezer just so pleasing? I never could have imagined the satisfaction. I used to think freezers were for ice and vodka!

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  12. jenna mcgw Avatar
    jenna mcgw

    My son is a few weeks younger than yours and we live by this book! I now take the time to break down my other recipes like she taught me, and I do as much prep as possible during naptime.

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  13. Sally Avatar
    Sally

    I love brisket! One of my favorite things about brisket is what can be done with the leftovers. I’ve come up with just over two dozen things to do with leftover brisket. I sometimes cook it just so I can use it for the leftover dishes.

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  14. Tara Avatar
    Tara

    Thank you! B is a great eater, but now that it’s colder, and our first fall/winter cooking season with a kiddo who wants to eat non-food milled food, I’m on the lookout for easier, but still delish recipes. You, once again, save the day, Luisa!

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  15. debbie koenig Avatar

    I could’ve sworn I left a comment earlier…
    Luisa, THANK YOU for this lovely writeup. I’m honored to think I might have inspired you, even a little.
    @Emily: You can do it! It does get better, really.
    @Jenna: It’s thrilling to know my book is helping you. Thanks for commenting.

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  16. Christine Avatar
    Christine

    I’m due with my first in two weeks, two days, so really any minute now. And this is so timely!
    For what it’s worth, the only thing that I ever use my slow cooker for is giant pieces of pork shoulder. But I think my slow cooker runs too hot to use for anything else and with a 7 lb piece of shoulder in there it can run the whole time while I’m at work and it won’t over cook it (unlike chicken, or stew, or anything else I’ve tried). Oh and the pork freezes well in some of its juices. Then we either reheat the meat with a good barbecue sauce for sandwiches, or make tacos, or whatever you might do with a mass amount of pork shoulder.
    In anticipation of cooking while on maternity leave while trying to breastfeed I’ve mostly taken to freezing sauces. So I froze a huge batch of tomatillo salsa in 1-1.5 cup increments that I can heat up with a can of white beans and chicken thighs until the thighs are cooked through for green chicken chili. And then I’ve made quadruple batches of bolognese so we can either have nice wide pasta with it, or throw it over polenta, whatever. I’m going to go check out Debbie’s site now for other freezing ideas and then probably off to buy the book too since I’ll probably want to read something that will make me feel normal in the next weeks to come.
    Thank you! and thank you for posting this beautiful brisket recipe. SO easy and probably super delicious.

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  17. Jan Avatar
    Jan

    This may seem a silly question, but when you say cast iron pot with lid, can I use an enameled cast iron pot? Like a Le Creuset (though to be honest, mine is made by Cuisinart)? Because it looks incredible, but I too anm slow-cookerless!

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  18. Em Avatar

    I am buying this book today! I am also in the midst of new-babyhood (I have a six week old), but I also have a 2-year-old and husband to feed. I haven’t cooked in, well, six weeks, and desperately need some inspiration. Thanks!

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  19. jenna mcgw Avatar
    jenna mcgw

    Oh Debbie, thank YOU! Your book really made it possible for me to get into the habit of cooking for the family. I originally took it out of the library, racked up some late fines, and have since bought a copy for myself and two girlfriends who are new mamas. Keep up the good work!

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  20. Luisa Avatar

    Tell me more, please!!!

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  21. Luisa Avatar

    That’s what I’ve got, an enameled cast iron pot!

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  22. Luisa Avatar

    Hang in there, honey! Two kids, you are a HERO!

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  23. Luisa Avatar

    Ooh, so soon! Exciting. Good luck! And it sounds like you’re going to be in great shape.

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  24. Luisa Avatar

    You’re welcome! Hope it’s useful to you. And soon, soon, I promise, things will start to get back to normal – new normal, that is. 12 weeks is just around the corner! x

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  25. Katie Avatar
    Katie

    I read an interview with Ottolenghi about his baby Max born earlier this year and he said there was no baby food in his house, that Max eats everything. Max had just finished eating a pan fried sea bass seasoned with soy sauce, salt and garlic! Teaching him early — ha.

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  26. Lisa Avatar
    Lisa

    I’ve bought short ribs at the butcher by asking for “rippen” but my go to method is to load a picture onto my phone and show it to them. i figured that out after visiting butchers and failing to adequately explain short ribs. The thing with the short ribs here in Tubingen is that I generally need to order them because its a not a usual cut. I’m Chinese American so I’m actually quite fond of things like kidneys, but i haven’t gotten up the courage to order pig kidneys yet in town.

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  27. Ellen Avatar
    Ellen

    Ines, thank you for the link…I hadn’t heard of her but it looks like she has some helpful advice!

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  28. jonquil Avatar
    jonquil

    Here’s two more for my wish list! 🙂 Hopefully one will help solve the dilemma of feeding three grandchildren (3, 6, & 8), one who has always been fussy about solid food, one who only really likes what his older sister doesn’t like, & the third one, who completes the trifecta of children-who-find-vegetables-abhorrent (but who will eat apples & bananas). But they all want to help cook.

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  29. Jan Avatar
    Jan

    Oh, wonderful! Then it looks like I have some cooking to get to; thanks!

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  30. kim Avatar

    yum! that brisket looks to die for!
    i’m giving away a kitchenaid mixer on my blog! i’d love it if you came by and said hi!:
    http://lovintheoven.com/2013/11/dulce-de-leche-espresso-bean-cookies.html

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  31. kaktusfink Avatar
    kaktusfink

    I think, short ribs are Leiterstück in German, though I’m not too familiar with Metzgereifachausdrücken. The regional thing in Germany makes it worse, Berlin butchers always stare at me when I ask for meat my mother (Hessen) or grandmother (Norther Germany) told me to buy for a certain recipe …

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  32. Molly Avatar
    Molly

    Oh, my goodness, you saved my week with this post! My son is a little bit older than Hugo – you’d think since he’s my second that it would be easier to figure out what to feed him, but no. My stubborn insistence on trying to cook only one meal for all of us and still trying to get some variety in probably has something to do with that. Anyway, I was having one of those weeks where figuring out the meal plan seemed especially daunting, but I had a brisket sitting in the freezer (red meat that the toddler can chew!), and voila! Funny how figuring out one meal can help everything else fall into place. I subbed pomegranate juice for the apple juice because I had an open bottle, and it was so delicious. The baby couldn’t eat it fast enough, and my five year old, who at first complained that she didn’t like the “flavor”, changed her mind by the end of the meal and decided that she liked it and was willing to have the leftovers packed for lunch. Magic, I tell ya. Oh, and this cookbook instantly went on my Christmas list!

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  33. Kate Avatar
    Kate

    I just love when your posts magically answer questions that have been rolling about in my head, Luisa! The days of just barely managing to down a glass of Kefir before 1:00pm like Emily says are not that long ago for me, either. Our 6-mo old is really curious about the foods WE eat, but not enjoying them when I mash them up for her and her hand-to-mouth coordination is still a little rocky, so smaller pieces I cut for her to handle herself aren’t actually arriving in their intended destination yet. I know we have time to acquaint her with solids since I still breast feed regularly, but this post was just the boost of confidence and inspiration I need! I can’t wait to check out Debbie’s book. Danke, Luisa und Debbie!

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  34. paulaj Avatar

    This looks like a delicious brisket. Will try over the holidays.

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  35. Omar Avatar
    Omar

    I’m not a lean beef kind of person so I used a chuck roast here. I would also have loved a fatty brisket (the only kind you can get in TX, this threw me for a loop my first few years in NYC where brisket is lean. ~A big thanks to Melissa Clark for useful information regarding the different brisket cuts~). Just wanted to say how much I enjoyed this.. brought back memories of TX brisket that was always served in a bbq type sauce. Not just bbq “sauce” but a sauce/cooking liquid that had bbq sauce (ahem) as a major flavor component. Delicious!

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  36. Sebastian Avatar

    This sounds great. Fun fact: The cover photo off the book is used by Munich’s City bank to advertise savings for kids

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  37. Luisa Avatar

    No way! Oh dear, the perils of stock photography…

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  38. Stephanie Avatar

    Danke, Luisa! I’ve never made brisket before but when you explained how easy it was, my red-meat loving husband happily trotted off to the butcher for me. We popped it in the slow cooker yesterday morning . . . By afternoon, I was so excited about it (and realized what a big piece of meat it was) that I called friends to come over for an impromptu Sunday dinner. It was a big hit with all!
    P.S. I love it when you feature slow-cooker/slow-oven recipes. As a working woman, they save me!

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  39. On Your Feet Avatar

    Gotta love slow cooker recipes. Gives working gals like us a chance to get off our feet for a minute. More please!

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  40. Nicole @ thejameskitchen.wordpress.com Avatar

    Hallo Luisa,
    what a great recipe, already got the meat and will start now. I can’t believe it is already about a year ago since you have helped me with the Bretzel making & lye acquisition (I swear the Apotheker thinks I am a bit weird), thanks again. They were a great hit and are now a staple Silvester party food. P.S. Was für eine schöne Sendung aus dem Deutschen Haus!
    Frohe Adventszeit, greatings from Frankfurt, Nicole

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  41. Luisa Avatar

    So glad to hear it! Love the idea of pretzels on Silvester. Dir auch eine schöne Adventszeit!

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  42. cheri Avatar

    This looks great, just in time for the holidays!

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  43. Loren Hockly Avatar

    Hugo is gorgeous! Thanks for your thoughtful posts. I have read almost every comment in this wee series! What a wealth of ideas!
    In New Zealand we are strongly advised to start solids at 6 months and puree is recommended. That said plenty of people do BLW. I am doing a mix of approaches with miss 7 months as she prefers to hold her food. I really enjoy watching her with a baton of pear or water melon. She loves it!

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