Hugo and the rice cake

Cultural differences, folks! So colorful, so funny, so endlessly interesting. Unless you're the mother of a hungry baby and you find your head spinning with every different answer you get about what you should feed your child.

Take, for example, the first solid food a baby should eat.


The Italians say to make a vegetable broth out of carrots, potatoes, tomatoes and onions. Let it cook for 50 minutes, then strain out the vegetables and use the broth to mix together a meal out of rice cereal and a spoonful of olive oil.

Meanwhile, the Germans say that a baby's first food should be a carrot boiled in water and puréed until smooth. The idea that onions or olive oil would be part of the first meal is totally unheard of. Couldn't onions irritate the stomach? Isn't olive oil far too strong of a taste? Meanwhile, the Italians say that carrots are constipating, so why on earth would you start a baby out with that? And put more Parmesan cheese on that poor child's plate!

(Implied outrage on either behalf mine, but, you know, based on reality.)

Over the ocean in America, conventional wisdom has it that the first food should be a soothing bowl of iron-fortified rice cereal. I gave that to Hugo a few times until I tried it myself and then decided life was too short to allow my kid to get used to wallpaper paste.

It's confusing and a little frustrating to hear so many conflicting opinions, especially at a time when you're feeling insecure about how to proceed. I've logged plenty of hours online doing searches for "7 month old olive oil okay?" or "8 month old yogurt safe? and feeling overwhelmed by the amount of answers to be found online. But on the other hand, once you start to realize that precisely because there's so little consensus there's not much you can do wrong, it's pretty freeing.

After all, while the Germans, for example, keep strongly flavored and spicy food away from small children, something tells me that Indians, say, don't keep the chiles and spices out of their babies' first meals. (Or do they? Tell me, readers!! I would love to know more.)

In fact, all the conflicting opinions on baby's first foods reminded me a lot of being pregnant and how each of my cultures had different banned foods that they were convinced if ingested would result in tragedy. When, really, a little nuance would have been more appropriate. (This blog post resonated so, so much with me – and helped me decide how to feed myself during that time.)

So tell me, readers, what did your culture (or your mother's or mother-in-law's) dictate you first feed your child? And how have you dealt with conflicting opinions about what your child should be fed?

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60 responses to “Cooking for Hugo: Culture Clash”

  1. Littlefpa Avatar

    I am Italian-American, and my parents were convinced that my baby needed pastina with butter as his first meal. I’ve spent the past four months panicking about it, with my pediatrician and the lady in my mom’s group and my OB and countless blogs all saying different things. Last week my baby started to refuse the homemade baby food I painstakingly labored over for his delicate system and began to lunge for food off of my plate, I just gave in. I figure most of his nutrition comes from his milk right now anyway. I stay away from the highly-allergenic foods, and save potentially-allergenic foods for days when we don’t have much going on, so should we HAVE to go to the ER, we aren’t missing anything good!

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  2. s Avatar

    Hi Luisa – A Pakistani mum here – in the early days of eating, we give our babies kichdi / kedgeree – it is basically a congee-type meal of basmati and a certain kind of lentils. we add onions and garlic, too. hope this helps, s

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  3. Birdie Avatar
    Birdie

    In Hawaii first foods are avocados, taro, bananas & coconut. High fat….never any grains (babies can’t digest grains). Go for what grows the closest, freshest and in season.

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  4. Melissa Martin Avatar

    I’m so with you. I just blogged about this issue myself and I too refuse to feed my baby wallpaper paste as a way to get her used to food! I’m going to try the vegetable broth AND the carrot! Thank you! 🙂
    p.s. LOVED your book and bought it for two of my friends.

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  5. Tawny Avatar

    Here’s an interesting look at your dilemma: I was in the same boat as you when I lived on the north shore of Oahu Hawaii. Four women in my neighborhood had babies the same month as I did, so we were all close and constantly getting together. I’m from a Canadian/French/American home, one neighbor from Pakistan, another from New Zealand (but she’s half Greek), another neighbor from the Philippines, and lastly one woman from Samoa (but she’s half Japanese). Quite the mix from all over the world right?! When it was time for solids, we all had a good laugh because each country has the “Must/Mustn’t” rules and all the rules clashed with the other. So our conclusion was to stay away from the obvious dangers, and really whatever you choose as a “first” is fine by the baby! He’s just excited to get his hands on that food stuff we’re always eating. I went with smashed Papayas and smashed bananas first. My Pakistani neighbor went with mashed sweet potatoes and rice with all the spices you might expect from that corner of the world, other first foods included Poi (ever heard of this nasty stuff? a Polynesian staple they swear by!), sea weed, and avocados. But we were all unanimous in one thing: stay away from the nasty fake rice cereals!

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  6. Daniel Avatar
    Daniel

    We skipped the rice cereal, and started with carrots. The MIL was upset that we weren’t feeding him rice cereal at four months, though, and was upset that we started with a vegetable. Our son ate tons of sweet potatoes, and at some point I started sneaking in garlic powder into his food, and now he loves garlic and lemon. Also, I agree with the commenter above, sautéed onions really make a dish better.
    I cook for him the way I would want to eat, but minus the salt. We used to really purée, but recently I’ve had to use the slow setting on the hand blender or add in rice flakes for texture. He sure loves his chunks.

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  7. Nicole Avatar
    Nicole

    I’m Australian and blw my twins. We started with roasted sweet potato sticks, broccoli florets, lamb cutlets to suck on and went from there. Now they eat chilli, garlic, spices, herbs but refuse spoon fed food unless it’s particularly delicious (yoghurt, broth, meatball broth). I have trouble getting porridge (homemade) into them because they refuse the spoon! Funny children.

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  8. Frankie Avatar
    Frankie

    “Cool it on the internet” = best comment/advice of all time ever! ESPECIALLY related to all things babies.

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  9. Flor de Maria Avatar
    Flor de Maria

    I know this is an old post but I could not help it but be curious. I am Peruvian but living in Seattle, WA (USA). When I had my last child I was very fortunate that her pediatrician said to me “Don’t even think about buying baby food, whatever you eat the baby can eat” which, as a good Peruvian mom, was always my belief. It was so great to share the same philosophy with my kid’s doctor and not to have to lie about what I was feeding the baby 🙂 especially after I tasted that awful, awful rice cereal. Today my kids eat anything, can travel anywhere and can dine at anybody’s home–or just about.

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