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Hugo will be eight weeks old this week. Eight whole weeks! In the past two weeks, he has started smiling at us, big, toothless grins that I have decided are the best thing since sliced bread, the steam engine and the birth of Steve Jobs put together. He stares at us in wonder when we speak, uttering little coos like he's trying to answer our absolutely inane questions, eats like a champ (and, for that matter, sleeps like a champ, unless the hubris of putting this down in type damns me forever) and is an absolute delight.

I have always wanted to be a mother. I've had baby fever my whole life, at least as far back as I can remember. I babysat avidly as a teenager, nannied as a young woman and fawned over my friends' babies when they were born. I very, very much looked forward to becoming a mother myself one day. And yet, still, the first three weeks of Hugo's life were a kick in the teeth. I don't want to say they were the hardest days of my life, because they were bound up with the wonder of Hugo – the boy who made us family – but they were hard.

(Proof? This tweet, in that wretched third week, was totally, completely, wholly unrhetorical in nature.)

Our culture, our society, prepares us endlessly for birth. But no one prepares you for what comes next. It's because, of course, there is no preparation. The sleep deprivation, the hormones (the hormones!), the terror of realizing in one split second that you are this little person's caretaker, its most important person, for the rest of your life, man, it is seriously heavy stuff that is very difficult to handle, much less prepare for. I realize now how right other societies have it when their new mothers are surrounded by their community for the weeks following birth, caring for her, washing and feeding her. A new baby doesn't really need much, but a new mother needs everything.

If you're a cook and you know a new mother or a woman who will be one soon, these meatballs can be your contribution to the cause of keeping that woman fed and sane (sort of). They're easy to make, they freeze well, they are nourishing and the new parents can even use the leftover sauce for a separate meal (we don't eat meatballs on spaghetti in Italy*) – a boon for those weary souls who will probably find it difficult even just to boil water at first.

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My mother doesn't consider herself much of a cook. (More on that in the book. And more on the book next time! Whee!) She only uses one cookbook, Ada Boni's Il Talismano della Felicità and even that one she only uses for inspiration, shall we say. (She takes a rather loose approach to following recipes, which irritates me to no end, but that's my cross to bear.) These meatballs come from there, but with one crucial difference: instead of frying the meatballs, she plonks them raw into a simple tomato sauce, eliminating a messy step and creating meltingly tender meatballs. (I think she got this idea from me? I'm not sure. I hate frying meatballs with a passion.)

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To make the meatballs, gather up the following:

1/2 pound of ground beef, 1/2 pound of ground pork, two eggs, 2 slices of white bread, the crusts cut off, enough milk to soak the bread, a bunch of parsley, a nutmeg for grating, salt, pepper, and, er, that's it.

Put the meat and eggs in a bowl. Tear the bread into little pieces, then soak them in the milk and squeeze them out, adding them to the bowl. Mince up the parsley and add it to the bowl. Grate a bit of nutmeg into the bowl. (30 strokes? To taste.) And salt and pepper the mixture. (I used about 1 1/2 teaspoons salt. I think.)

Then, using your hands, mix all of this together until it's a smooth, uniform mass. Cover the bowl with a plate or some plastic wrap and stick it in the fridge for a few hours. When you're ready to cook, form the meatballs. I like smaller-sized meatballs, about the size of a small plum, two inches at most in diameter. Put them on a plate.

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Next you have to make your tomato sauce. Which is as easy as browning a clove of garlic in olive oil and then dumping a 28-ounce can of good-quality tomatoes (puréed, chopped, whatever) and their juices into the pot and cooking this over medium-low heat for about 25 minutes (don't forget to salt the sauce). When the sauce tastes good and cooked, for lack of a better descriptor, gently plop the meatballs into the sauce like so:

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Then put the lid on and let the sauce and meatballs simmer slowly away. Resist the urge to stir the pot; if you are concerned, shake the pot a little. 25 minutes later, turn off the heat. Let the pot sit there until fully cooled. At that point, you may freeze the meatballs or package them up to take to the new mother who needs feeding. This recipes makes enough for at least two meals for two people.

(*Are you asking yourself what on earth do Italians eat meatballs with, if not spaghetti? Well, this Italian likes serving them with polenta (also because leftover polenta fried in butter and doused with maple syrup is a prairie breakfast of the gods) or steamed rice, the better to soak up the sauce with.)

Meatballs may seem like a pretty humble offering, but to a hungry, bleary-eyed, frightened new mother, they can be deeply comforting. Especially if you tell her that I promise that whether she believes it or not, one day, not so far off in the future, she'll be feeling capable enough of making those meatballs herself.

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60 responses to “Meatballs for New Mothers”

  1. Jessika Avatar

    Congrats on the baby!!

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  2. Kathe Avatar
    Kathe

    I remember those days of early motherhood… we cocooned and it was wonderful, in a hazy,exhausted sort of way. Why don’t they tell you that breastfeeding is pretty much a full-time job the first few months?
    Thanks for the recipe. I’m way past new-mother status, but I will make these soon.
    I laughed out loud at your description of Hugo giving you a “toothy” grin…teeth at 8 weeks? You have quite a prodigy there!

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  3. Luisa Avatar

    Kathe – ha, sleeplessness will do that: I meant “toothless”!!

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  4. Courtney @ Translating Nutrition Avatar

    YUM! Those look delicious! Major meatball craving now.

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  5. clotilde Avatar

    I remember thinking those exact same two things: “This is the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my entire life” and “How can people possibly decide to ever have another one?”
    But it does get significantly easier (and more fun!) after just a few short weeks, and once you’re over that hump, you can’t quite remember how rough it was. (Hence the second kid, I imagine. 🙂

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  6. Elizabeth Avatar

    It’s like you read my mind. I know of a family that needs some reassurance, and I’ve been trying to come up with something to take them. This looks perfect. Congatulations on little Hugo!

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  7. sarah Avatar

    I have so many memories flooding back, reading this. My husband and I would always say the first three months were like running into a brick wall, every day. It’s impossible to prepare for – the wonder and beauty, and the exhaustion and responsibility.
    But oh, the joy.

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  8. Monica Avatar
    Monica

    Lovely update and great-looking recipe. Will try it when NYC is not hovering at 90 and humid for weeks on end.
    I’ve never had a child, but have watched several friends go on to have two (or even more!) My sense is that the second one is less overwhelming because they learned from the first one that they won’t actually let the baby die. (Which I say not to be snarky or frightening, but because many of the new parents I’ve known seem to genuinely fear that.)
    You’ll do great! Particularly as you have a fabulous exemplar right there to help. Enjoy it as much as sleep deprivation allows.

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  9. Celia Avatar

    I’m in week 3 currently, and so looking forward to getting to the smiling, cooing, meatball cooking stage!

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  10. Jaimie Avatar

    Haha – my baby is four months old and I share the sentiments of your tweet. We LOVE her, but oh my goodness, she may not get to have any brothers or sisters. 🙂

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  11. Honeybee Avatar
    Honeybee

    So, so true, every word of it. There I was preparing (haha) and focusing on (or fretting about, rather) giving birth, only to realise that the REALLY tricky part came afterwards.
    I love meatballs (especially with no frying involved – yay) and will definitely make and freeze these before the arrival of baby n° 2. Yes, we dare go there again…

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  12. kaci Avatar
    kaci

    yes to all of this. caring for a newborn is so, so hard. and like you said, new mothers need everything. but too often, people don’t know about that need or don’t know how to help. here’s to many meatballs for new mothers!

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  13. Fey Avatar

    Your post reminded me of my early days of motherhood… it was sooo hard! Those days made me appreciate my own mother so much more.
    Just remember, the days are long but the years are short. 🙂

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  14. Amanda @ Becoming a Boulangère Avatar

    Thanks for the great idea and recipe! My sister is due with her first child in early October, so I’ve been trying to think about how I can help support her in those first few weeks!

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  15. Amy Avatar

    Ah what a nice post. I’m only twenty-one, and definitely child-less, but I’m a little surprised at how no one has ever informed me of this post-birth thing. I’ve always put all the importance and emphasis on THE birth. Hmmm. Well I’m glad you passed that three-week mark, and are now enjoying that champion of your son! Lovely meatballs, too. Never heard of plopping them straight in a sauce to cook— too curious now to not try it out!

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  16. Roni Avatar
    Roni

    The Hospital sent us home with a care package including a jar of pasta sauce, not something I usually use, but it was a blessing. Boiling water was all I could manage to do those first few days. Having meatball in the freezer would have made for a memorable gift – I’ll remember that!
    I love what Kaci said about the days being long and the years short – it is so true and that first year is a blink – enjoy it.

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  17. Ziu Avatar

    A relative just had a baby. We spend the whole evening cooking freezable meals for them thinking how grateful they would be! But upon visiting we’ve discovered their baby is sleeping pretty much all the time so despite interrupted sleep, their life is pretty much normal, if not leisurely. What?! I didnt think it possible. I wonder how to get one of those kind of babies. Probably not possible with my luck!

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  18. Victoria Avatar

    You sound wonderful, and for that I am very happy.
    Meatballs – to me anyway – are definitely NOT humble fare. I love them, and since I love everything I’ve ever made on your recommendation (I made those rice-stuffed tomatoes with potatoes in the pan over the weekend, and, as always, they were delish, one of the reasons I can’t wait for August) so I will make these meatballs, maybe today. I always saute my meatballs, but if I like these as much as you do, I will try just dropping them in the sauce of my sounds-horrible-but-is the-best meatball goulash. After all, I don’t (gasp) brown my chicken for paprikash.
    Now I’m just waiting for The Book! Be well, stay happy and healthy. Love to you all.

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  19. A Plum By Any Other Name Avatar

    I’ve felt like a terrible Italian for the distain I have towards frying meatballs. I can now feel very confident in plopping them in sauce and letting hot tomatoes do the work. And I thank you for that, my good woman.

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  20. Eileen Avatar

    I agree–meatballs are one of the most comforting foods ever. I like to make a whole bunch and stash them in the freezer for emergency dinners. 🙂

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  21. olga Avatar

    Luisa – count me in the camp of “hating-to-fry-meatballs” – the drudgery! these look amazing. for whatever reason, and yes, i’m aware it’s almost 100 degrees here in NYC, i’m craving meat, meatballs, the hearty winter fare that i shouldn’t be hankering for at least for another 2 months. at least. and here i am. wanting nothing but some amazing meatballs (which these look like) or a great, rare burger. Go figure! We just saw our niece who seems to be the same age as Hugo – and the smiles and coos got me bad. Now all I notice around me are babies, strollers, baby clothes, baby coos. It all sounds wonderful! So happy for you guys!

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  22. Laurel Avatar
    Laurel

    I love reading your posts so much right now. My six week old just gave me his first loopy grins at 5am this morning. These meatballs look perfect. Thank you!

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  23. Tara Avatar
    Tara

    I’ve always put the raw meatballs straight into the sauce, although lately, to get a bit of bite in the meatballs, I’ve baked them first. Either way, delicious.
    And as far as the first days with a baby go – you’re right, it isn’t easy. We adopted our first child when she was one month old, and I found myself exhausted, sitting on the couch with her, wondering how my husband and I would feed ourselves, and how on earth anyone who had given birth and was now breastfeeding could actually manage. Well done YOU for not only cooking but getting this post out!

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  24. Naomi Avatar
    Naomi

    I hate to fry meatballs, too! So I’ve always cheated and put them directly on a baking sheet and done them in the oven (my mom did it that way). But I have to say, I tend to get distracted by my two toddlers, so the meatballs sometimes dry out. This sounds like a much better method!
    We were really blessed when our daughter was born to be given two weeks of meals by friends, which resulted in leftovers going in the freezer, so I didn’t have to cook for a month. What bliss. I didn’t find the cooking hard, it was trying to THINK of what to cook that wore me out! So in the latter stages of pregnancy with our son, I made freezer meals galore. I’d definitely second many of these comments by saying if you can spare the time to do the same for anyone you vaguely know who has a newborn, do it!
    Oh, and either I’m absolutely insane, or it does get easier. We’ve got our third on the way, so in a few months, I’ll be making several of this recipe to throw in our freezer! Glad to hear Hugo is being a sleeping eating hero for you.

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  25. Jocelyn Z Avatar

    Mine was born on June 14th, so I’m right there with you, and MY GOD THE HORMONES I totally agree. That first month was hands-down the hardest and best thing I’ve ever done in my life. But if you’d told me that two months after giving birth, I’d be saying “four days of labor ending in a c-section wasn’t such a big deal, really… it’s the sleep deprivation, hormone shifts and breastfeeding that were hardest” I would not have believed you.
    But I got my hubby to watch the kiddo for a while on Saturday and made that banana bread, and it is every bit as good as you promised. Thank you! I guess I’m settling into this mommyhood thing, and Millie is settling in, too.

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  26. Doris Avatar

    Congrats on Hugo’s 8 weeks! I have a friend who is expecting her first child in January and I promised to cook for her after the baby’s arrival during the first week. Thanks for sharing this recipe! It’ll definitely be a big help in January ^_^

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  27. Brettne Avatar
    Brettne

    Delish! My girls (and my man!) will love these. Can’t wait to hear more about that book you mention….xoxoxoxo

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  28. Laurel Avatar
    Laurel

    I make a very similar recipe but in the slow cooker for every new momma I feed. (As a mom of 2 I love love love my slow cooker). And how you have more than one? It’s totally amnesia. 🙂

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  29. Victoria Avatar

    I did make these for dinner, and they are as good as you said. Since the meatballs are small and cook in only 25 minutes, their flavor does not leach out into the sauce, but deliciously enhances it. And since I didn’t serve it with a starch, I have that wonderful sauce for another meal. Yay. Thanks once again, Luisa.

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  30. Mary Avatar
    Mary

    Hi Luisa
    I can’t wait to try these meatballs! They sound perfectly fabulous. I made your banana and coconut loaf the other day and it was delish but there were no eggs in the recipe! I don’t know if it was right that way but it seemed odd both in terms of actual texture and recipe so I added 2! Was that about correct or was it supposed to be without eggs? I do know that some people add vinegar and something I can’t remember (!) to replace eggs if they are allergic to them in baking… Either way, it was delicious! Thank you!

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  31. Ben Avatar

    We felt exactly the same with our first child, but it’s getting easier to a point were we wanted another child…;-)
    With our friends we have a tradition were we bring food as present to the new mothers when we visit them first after giving birth. American friends of ours even brought a roast chicken with vegetables after the birth of our second child. And what can I say. We were so grateful for it!
    As for the recipe. I also posted a similar recipe on my blog last year. The recipe is from an italian mother of 3 and grandmother of 8 and guess what. She fries the meatballs and serves them with pasta….;-)
    But as I feel that the frying part is really odd, I will definitely try your version soon…

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  32. Claire Avatar
    Claire

    We had our fourth at the end of last year, and nothing, NOTHING, is as hard as having your first. Love this time, but be kind to yourself and eat as much as you can whilst feeding him! These are going on next week’s menu btw – they look delicious!

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  33. Sylee Avatar

    Wonderful photos, and a perfect summary of this period. (Oh, those gummy grins! Oh the wild frustrations of sleep loss!) And I’m very impressed that you can write so beautifully despite the ruckus of these early weeks 🙂

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  34. Luisa Avatar

    Celia – courage and hang in there! It will be over soon! 🙂
    Roni – what a lovely thing for your hospital to do!
    Victoria – yay, I’m so glad you liked them!
    Mary – there are indeed no eggs in the recipe. Glad you liked it all the same.

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  35. Mariss Avatar

    How refreshing to see honest interpretations of those early days of motherhood. I’m due for my first in February. Oddly, I have meat in my fridge specifically for meatballs tonight. This will be perfect. Thank you!

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  36. hima Avatar

    spaghetti and meatballs are an often-requested dish (by me), but rarely fulfilled in my house. mostly because frying the little buggers is so annoying! thank you so much for sharing this cooking method; maybe my husband will make spaghetti and meatballs more frequently.
    congratulations on making it through the first 8 weeks. can’t wait to hear more about the book!

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  37. Ashley Avatar

    Luisa – You’ve captured motherhood beautifully. I often describe parenthood as a daily emotional roller coaster. One moment I’m so in love with these littles I could just scream the next moment I feel like screaming out of frustration and exhaustion. The feeling of love always wins out and I consider it pure joy to be a mother. Congratulations, again, on that sweet little man.
    Can’t wait for the book!

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  38. raceh Avatar

    I used to call my sister all the time and I never tired of hearing her tell me to trust myself, to never compare, that everything was a phase, that things keep changing all the time, that days (and nights) are long but time flies, that it’s a roller coaster, that it was alright to feel cross or overwhelmed, that it was normal that everything felt desperate and urgent one second and then exquisitely calm the next.
    Talking of roller coasters we have just entered the crawling phase, it is feeling a little bit like carnage.
    So many words, I just wanted to say hello, send you love and say how nice the meatballs look.

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  39. Suzy Avatar
    Suzy

    Despite your concerns, you sound like you are doing really well. What I would give to be at 8 weeks already!

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  40. dervla @ The Curator Avatar

    love this post. My mother kept me sane by calling me every day and people who dropped by with food and averted their eyes from my less than showered state were definitely the most welcome. I’ll remember that food is the best gift next time someone in my life has a baby.
    I can’t wait until Hugo can taste your delicious cooking!

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  41. Mary Avatar
    Mary

    Thanks Luisa! Great to know. I’m gonna actually follow the recipe next time!

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  42. tunie Avatar
    tunie

    Isn’t it interesting that with all the history of baby-making, the needs of new parents are so unknown? Why in the world do we put ourselves through it? A nanny and a trust fund are essential, imo, lol.
    For now, a relationship with my husband and my friends is more than enough family for me.

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  43. Christiane Gelormino Avatar
    Christiane Gelormino

    Wish i could have read this blog when i had my first baby 29 years ago! But i know i would have been too tired and exhausted to read anything… 🙂

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  44. Acacia Avatar

    I am so excited for your book!! I find your writing so memorable and unique…still think of your ‘toast and a summer break’ post whenever I make avocado toast now. I was seriously considering making Molly’s lamb meatballs from her book until I saw this post – love the idea of just plunking them directly into the sauce instead of frying. Brilliant!

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  45. Sasha Avatar

    This post makes me grin – with teeth exposed – over the thought of making meatballs as well as the thought of one day being a mother.
    Can’t wait for the next post and an update on your book! September is the month it is coming out, right? Yes, I cannot wait.

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  46. Lorie Avatar

    Love that you are back to your writing… here and there. Congrats on baby Hugo.
    Twenty-five years later, childbirth retains its mind-baffling ups and downs. It can bring you to your knees or uplift you into the clouds… but, in the end, you wouldn’t have it any different.
    Hang in there… and remember that each little tick of the clock goes oh-so-fast. Enjoy the moment.
    I always said the early years were the physical years and the later years were the mental years… not sure which is best. You might get more sleep, but I’m not entirely sure you ever know it:)

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  47. twoblueshoes Avatar

    At the risk of sounding terribly schadenfreude-ic, I am so glad you – who always wanted a baby – found the first weeks hard as well. Not glad that you had to go through it, but glad that it’s not just people like me – the ones who weren’t avid baby fawners – who just barely made it out of that newborn fog alive. But everything the others have said is true. It passes, the hard stuff, and even when other hard stuff comes in its place, the LOVE, my goodness, that just grows exponentially. It is astounding.
    The meals-for-new-mothers thing is an invaluable contribution to every community in which it happens. I honestly think the world would be a better place if people would just cook for each other more often!
    So looking forward to hearing more of Hugo, and of the other baby – the book!

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  48. The Graphic Foodie Avatar
    The Graphic Foodie

    I hear you. 6 months in and my baby still doesn’t sleep!!! Lucky Hugo has got the knack at 8 weeks!
    I’ve only just had the heart and brain to start bloggong again now 🙂

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  49. Stuart Avatar

    My sister’s coming over with my new nephew this weekend. You’ve given me sweet inspiration for what to make her for dinner. Thanks very much!

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  50. ML Avatar
    ML

    Yeah, newborns are hard, especially the first. But having #2 (and for me, #3 as well) really underlines a sense of skill mastery: it’s easier the next time around because you know what to expect. It’s also easier not to be engulfed in feeling overwhelmed when you have more than one because you just don’t have that luxury. The attitude is more like, “We’ll get through this because we have in the past and will again” whereas with one child, it will always be the first time you have a newborn, the first time you have a mischievious 1.5 year old, the first time you have a turbulent two year old, the first time you have a sassy 12 year old, etc.
    But thanks for the meatball recipe. I’d love someone to make it for me, but with a 5.5 year old, a 3 year old, and a 6 month old (and a job), I’ll have to make this myself, after the kids are asleep and I have a few minutes to myself. And then I will have beautiful meatballs (without the oily filth).

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