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In the end, it was the most beautiful day of my life. I didn't expect it to be, had nothing but foolish nerves about all those people! looking at me! can't I just sneak past them and surprise them at the altar, er, fig tree? But when my father and I walked down the aisle and all around us, our family and friends starting humming "Here Comes the Bride" because I hadn't planned for any music – much to my father's chagrin – and when I saw my friend Dave with his new Buddy Holly-inspired glasses waiting for us up at the fig tree, sermon in hand, and when Max and I were told to turn around and say hello to all the people who had come, by planes, trains and automobiles, from Seattle and Jakarta, from New York and Paris, from Rome and Berlin, from Salzburg and Brussels, to assemble in my mother's garden and see us be married next to the house that my grandfather bought and rebuilt 30 years ago, I realized with a full heart and a clenched throat that sometimes clichés exist for a reason.

I'm still in the happy, misty fog that enveloped us that day, even though the beautiful greenhouse-like tent is being dismantled as we speak and the seating chart that I nailed to the shack my grandfather built is gone and the wildflowers my stepmother and friends picked by the side of the road the morning of the wedding to decorate the tables with are now finally wilting. One by one, everyone has said goodbye and gone back home, leaving behind only a footprint in the dusty earth here and a bent bottle cap and a stray sequin there. Tomorrow I leave this house and these gorgeous hills that are forever changed in my mind. Now it is the place where I married the love of my life while our dearest dears looked on and cheered for us in the setting sun.

I am the luckiest girl alive, I thought on Saturday and every day since then. To have had this day, these days, to love this person, to know these hills. And to be a part of so many lives that came together that afternoon. If I close my eyes, I can see them still: my 10-year old cousin Max helping me with my makeup, my girlfriends in the bathroom with me, pinning chiffon flowers in my hair, my husband's eyes filled with tears, my father's speech, funny and true.

May I never forget any of it nor the feeling of happiness within me still. I am a lucky girl.

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151 responses to “Reader, I Married Him”

  1. Victoria Avatar

    P.S. Your dress was perfect.

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  2. Lecia Avatar

    Congratulations, Luisa. I wish you a lifetime of happiness. xoxo

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  3. Tracy A. Avatar

    I love that everyone hummed in place of music. Now that’s community. Beautiful all around. Congratulations and best wishes!

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  4. Gemma Avatar
    Gemma

    Most perfect post. Ever

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  5. Lucia Avatar

    Sometimes it’s better not to say anything. This is one of those times.
    So just imagine me hugging you and saying with my eyes what words cannot express. Happy for you, truly and deeply.
    Good luck, lucky girl.

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  6. Charmaine Avatar
    Charmaine

    Wishing you both a lifetime of bliss and celebrations that never end; congratulations!

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  7. CM Avatar

    Congratulations! What a wonderful, meaningful way to celebrate. I know you only through your blog, but reading this beautiful post brought a tear to my eye and made me share a little of the happiness you felt that day. Best wishes for a blissful life together!

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  8. Adam Avatar

    Mazel Tov, Luisa! You look beautiful, as does everyone else. Enjoy married life!

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  9. Jess Avatar

    Look at you two! I loved reading this. Sounds like you soaked up every last bit. Keep soakin’, lady! xo.

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  10. Anya Sokha Avatar

    Have been thinking for a while about something original to say, but you are right — sometimes clichés exist for a reason. Congratulations, Luisa and Max! Neither time nor distance could have broken — and may never do — your ties. Am going to have a few pieces of cake for you two. 🙂 Again, congratulations!!

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  11. Jane Avatar

    Aww! I got goosebumps reading the words “love of my life” Congrats!

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  12. Row Avatar
    Row

    Hooray!!! Congratulations and best wishes! big hugs

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  13. Barrie Avatar
    Barrie

    Bliss to both of you! Mazal tov.
    Barrie

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  14. lisa Avatar

    Congratulations! What beautiful writing…fit for a beautiful life together!
    All the best!

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  15. TSAC Avatar

    I’m so happy for you! They do say the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, so keep up the great cooking. Congratulations!
    http://www.bloomingtastebuds.blogspot.com

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  16. Kelly Hartman Avatar

    Congratulations! We want more pics!

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  17. Vivian Avatar
    Vivian

    luisa, i envy you. isn’t this stuff what movies are made out of? congratulations on your beautiful wedding.

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  18. Doris Avatar

    Congratulations! Best wishes to a very happy future! ^_^

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  19. Kalyn Avatar

    Congratulations. I love the way you both look so happy in the photo!

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  20. CCP Avatar

    Congratulations! – I’ve just had a peek at your “Berlin Wedding” Flickr set (http://www.flickr.com/photos/74932844@N00/sets/72157626929997890/detail/ ): it looks like you had an absolutely splendid weekend; so full of joy, love, and laughter.

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    kim

    Many many congratulations Luisa! I am happy for you 🙂

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  22. Koek! Avatar

    Oh wow – I love that I get just how you feel… I felt the same (got hitched in April this year.) I had no idea my wedding day would be so perfect, so filled with that special kind of magic that only comes out on these occasions. It was such a wonderful surprise!
    http://maclarty.blogspot.com/2011/04/das-wedding.html
    Thanks for sharing.
    Enjoy your honeymoon! Take lots of photos.
    x

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  23. Christiane Avatar
    Christiane

    Touching and very beautifully written Luisa.
    lucky girl, I wish you all th best, lots of flowers, love and sunshine
    looking forward to new food stories in your marriage.Christiane

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  24. Preeta Avatar
    Preeta

    Congratulations, Luisa! May this journey on which you and your true love have embarked be long and full!

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  25. Melissa Avatar

    Luisa, such a wonderful post about your beautiful day. Congratulations to you both! Memories are the best thing you take from your wedding day. I can close my eyes and see my husbands smiling face with tears in his eyes as my father walked me down the aisle and can hear the exact way he said ‘you look beautful’. Congratulations again!

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  26. Sues Avatar

    Congratulations!! That’s sooo exciting 🙂 🙂

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  27. Bori Avatar
    Bori

    Congratulations!!! I wish you a long and happy marriage, and I loved the writing – again…

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  28. Pei-Lin Avatar

    Congrats to both you, Luisa, and your husband! I’m so happy for you two! This is such a moving, touching write-up. 😥

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  29. Kasey Avatar

    You look beautiful, Luisa! Your post makes me look back fondly on my wedding day nearly 2 years ago and think many of the same thoughts (oh how lucky we are!)

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  30. Renae Avatar
    Renae

    Congratulations! Gorgeous picture! What joy!! Happy life together.

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  31. Annie Avatar
    Annie

    Congratulations! Marriage is a wonderful thing. And thank you for sharing your joy with your readers – you are a most generous writer in every sense.

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  32. m.i.a. Avatar
    m.i.a.

    who’s the guy in the picture? 🙂
    congratulations! all the best to you and your husband!

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  33. Veronica Avatar
    Veronica

    Congratulations! You certainly were a beautiful bride, and your garden wedding sounds just perfect! All the very very best to you both. Veronica

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  34. Christine Avatar
    Christine

    OH I just LOVE this. Wishing you a lifetime of happiness! xoxo

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  35. kim Avatar

    You’re a beautiful, blushing bride. And the fig tree has such a spiritual, symbolic meaning. My best wishes for you to a beautiful life with your new hubby!

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  36. Oana from dishchronicles Avatar

    Congratulations Luisa. May you share a lifetime of beauty together. Can’t wait to hear about the food.

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  37. Diana Avatar
    Diana

    Oh Congratulations to you and your new husband, as you are lucky – he is lucky too! May your life together be blessed always.
    Best wishes from Down-under.

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  38. Honeybee Avatar
    Honeybee

    Thank your for sharing this and congratualtions!! I remember just how loved I felt when we walked down the aisle under the eyes of all the people who are important to us. It was such a special moment.

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  39. FriendsEAT Avatar

    Hi Luisa,
    Congratulations and best wishes to you and your husband. May you continually share with us your recipes especially now that you will not only be cooking for yourself, your parents but most specially for your new family.

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  40. Shauna Avatar

    Well, you made me cry. and here is the little secret: that euphoric feeling doesn’t have to leave. Life intrudes, and part of it fades, but it is always there, ready to well up at any moment. I remember you leaving a comment on my blog post about our wedding (with the same title, of course) and reading this, I just went back there. Biggest congratulations and huge love, my dear.

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  41. Juliane Avatar

    What a beautiful wedding picture -you’re a stunning bride! Love your blog!
    ~Juliane of http://www.StyleNectar.com

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  42. thecatskillkiwi Avatar

    Gosh… it just sounds so utterly perfect!
    so happy for you.

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  43. Kao Avatar
    Kao

    This is so beautiful. Congratulations!

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  44. Bee Avatar

    What a sweet picture 🙂 Congratulations!

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  45. Jonha | FriendsEat Avatar

    Congratulations, best wishes. Whatever it is, I wish you happiness 🙂

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    Christian Kent

    NOOOOOOOOOO! I OBJECT! I LOVE YOU! Just Kidding Luisa, i’m a fan of your blog, and I wish you happiness and lots of honey on your moon.

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  47. Julie Avatar

    What a beautiful bride you are and what a lovely wedding that must have been. Best wishes for a long and happy life together.

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  48. Marsha Calhoun Avatar
    Marsha Calhoun

    I have been that one congratulates the groom and wishes luck to the bride, but I extend congratulations and hopes for all luck and happiness to you both!

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  49. Holley A Avatar

    Haven’t been here in a while, and SOOOOO happy to see your radiant face and read the news – congratulations! It was a thrill to meet you at the book party for Norm Weinstein a few years back, and I just can’t wait to get my hands on a copy of YOUR book here in NYC. Keep me posted!

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